The Feminine Embrace
Published June 18th, 2009 | 
Into the black whole (hole)
Are you flexible enough to discipline yourself ?
Are you structured enough to allow yourself the freedom to be chaotic?
The old rules don’t work anymore. The way we do business, make friends, interact socially with each other have changed. More people live alone than ever before, yet we are more connected to more people, via the internet and social networking than ever before.
The biggest sign of change is the rapid growth of social networking and social media sites like Ecademy and Twitter, where random, synchronous connections leading to unexpected relationships are fostered. Surprising levels of intimacy blossom between people from VASTLY differing backgrounds. People who would previously have never met, let alone learnt to trust and like each other, become your biggest sources of connection.
We keep hearing that the random, open, supportive nature of social networking is the new paradigm for business. The closed, selective, controlling interactions or the aggressive Alan Sugar style of business is becoming less acceptable.
But what does this mean? Why has this change come about? What is going on? What happened to the boundaries, divisions that used to separate different people into groups?
Why have the rules gone out of the window leaving chaotic random connections?
Rejecting The Masculine And Embracing The Feminine
We have shifted from left brain to right brain thinking. The masculine to the feminine.
For hundreds of years rational, logical thought has ruled supreme. Nothing was considered valid unless scientific “proof” could be demonstrated. Clear, precise rules were applied to everything and assumed to be true. Everything was controlled. Processes were defined, measured, categorised. A place for everything and everything (everyone) kept firmly in its place. Socially this was the class system, hierarchy within companies and between firms. Judgments especially pre-judgments based on your status were commonplace.
Masculine energy is consciousness, control, structure, and often referred to as “light” as in solar light. With the sun predominant place in the galaxy (for inhabitants of planet earth anyway) masculine solar thinking has dominated. Masculine energy is the conscious mind.
Masculine/Feminine
Closed/Open
Selective/Random
Controlling/Supportive
Judgmental/Allowing
Inspiration/Calculation
Facts/Hunches
Deductive Thinking/Inductive Thinking
Ordered/Chaotic
Ethics/Integrity
Structured/Dynamic
Hierarchical /Social Networked
Rejecting/Permitting
Rejecting/Accepting
Solid/Flexible and Free Flowing
Differences /Likeness
Rules/Choice
Restrictive/Expansive
Light/Darkness
Heat/Cool
Stable/ Movement
Cock Consciousness / Pussy Power
Into the black whole (hole)
Astronomy tells us that the arm of the galaxy is aligning with the centre of the galaxy where a black hole. Astrologers say this explains the shift. Of course the left brain thinking scientists will reject this as bunkum. As a scientist myself I have to agree there is no proof, but my intuition and instinct tells me that something is changing.
Feminine energy is dark, chaotic, has no rules, no formula. It is raw power. Feminine thinking is right brain, intuitive, holistic. It destroys rules and boundaries and unites. It is dark (not bad, just dark) Where the masculine sorts by differentiating and separating, the feminine integrates and unites. Feminine is heart or unconscious mind.
There has been an explosion of intuitive thinking, and being psychic as gained acceptance, even in the hearts of businessmen. Scientific evidence for the thinking heart, intuition is trusted and relied upon, no longer instantly rejected.
The balance of power is shifting, but will a balance be found. Will the masculine be completely rejected as more embrace feminine?
Masculine is control, structure, support, rules, regulations, organisation
Feminine energy is raw juicy, chaotic, dark, inspiration, creativity, flexibility, power
Power without control is destructive chaos
Control without power is impotent
The perfect balance
The perfect balance is like the internal combustion engine. The engine, cylinders, pistons, all the control systems and the engine structure is the masculine. But the fuel is feminine. No fuel no movement. No engine, a destructive explosion. But put them together and you have an engine that can drive you round the world and back.
So what of the future?
The feminine paradigm will bring a further breakdown of larger organisations, structures, rules; regulations will break down in unexpected ways. Organisation overall will be lost as flexible living rises.
Some bastions of masculine energy, particularly large bureaucracies will start to crumble. But they will likely fight back first.
Individuals and institutions trying to maintain the status quo will fight a continuingly losing battle. They may attempt to tighten their grip and increase rules, legislation and regulation, but this is likely to only be short term.
The academic institutions will struggle to resist the tide of intuitive, creative holistic thinking. They will use the old paradigm to discrete what is not provable. But what the population choose to believe will be unaffected by their proof or disproof. People will start to trust their own knowing.
There will be an increase in creativity and outlets for creativity. We already see this with the abundance of creative writing on blogs (I hope this one counts). Publishing books, creating music is easier and it will become more available to more people. The restrictive channels of the publishing houses and distributors will no longer be a barrier.
Being flexible will be the way forward
Being flexible will be the way to survive. Forget everything you thought was “true” and learn to accept what is without trying to change it.
The ideal outcome will be to find a balance before a decline into total anarchy with a new balance of the ideal masculine and feminine. Although we may overshoot into the darkness of the black whole before we come out into the new light, and that may take a few thousand years.
The ideal will be for the individual to reject external discipline, but developing self discipline. Become balanced within yourself, flexible and strong. As individuals we can only be free when we are constrained by our own boundaries.
The question is
Are you flexible enough to discipline yourself ?
Are you structured enough to allow yourself the freedom to be chaotic?
Until next time
Lisa
How NOT to Release Emotions
Published June 1st, 2009 | What are 3 things most people do wrong when they try to release emotions?
If you have been seeking release from your painful emotions you may have tried these methods and been left feeling more of a failure because you couldn’t make them work. I hope you will draw comfort from learning that it is not you. it is not your fault. Here is why many therapies simply don’t work or why you haven’t been able to heal yet.
1. EXPRESS THEM.
Many therapies focus on crying, talking about your problem or even shouting and screaming. Rather than releasing them this actually reinforces them in your neurology. Every time you think a thought, feel an emotion or recall a memory, the neurons fire in your brain along the same original path. Each time you do this you will actually be strengthening that path, making it easier for that pathway to be fired up next time. This is why small events in the present can trigger past trauma. Expressing emotions does not release them.
2. SUPPRESS THEM.
This is also called denial and we do this in a variety of ways. Most people will simply kid themselves or deny (hence the term) that they have any problems at all. Often emotions are suppressed or anaesthetised out of consciousness with addictions. Smoking, drinking, video games, TV, eating too much or a compulsion to eat a particular thing, even caffeine will anaesthetise your pain.
However, the pain and the problems are still there. The neurons are still firing, but out of your conscious awareness. Before you can release the problem you need to be honest with yourself about how you feel. It is OK to feel bad, and you can’t let go of something until you know you are holding it. How do you know if you have suppressed emotions? Here are some telltale signs:
You overreact to small things
This is known as emotional leakage. The emotions, denied in one area of your life, literally spill out in other areas. So if you are irritable, overly sentimental, get hurt by small things, even road rage, are signs that you could be suppressing emotions in another area.
Feeling tired – it takes energy to carry emotions (that’s why it’s called emotional baggage) and it takes even more energy to suppress them. If you are lacking in energy, need more sleep than most people or just have no get up and go. Many of my past clients were suffering from chronic fatigue or ME, which disappeared once they released their emotions.
You have physical pain with no diagnosable cause.
Back pain, headaches even migraines are an example of this. You have become so used to suppressing your emotions that the spill out as physical pain. Your body is telling you something in the only way it knows how. So pay attention.
Many therapies don’t have an effective technique for bringing emotions to the surface and many therapists are actually afraid of provoking their clients emotions. This is the hardest part of my job as a therapist because I need to activate YOUR pain, which in turn, as an empathy, I feel too. But you cannot release emotions you are not aware of.
3. UNDERSTAND THEM
Do you know someone who knows exactly WHY they have their problems? They know the cause, the events that led to them, how it all happened. They will know and fully understand all the patterns and triggers, and often they will find every opportunity to share them with anyone who seems even remotely interested, they will launch into their “story”. The problem is they still have the problem. Knowing why you have the problem and understanding it is a bit like knowing your car doesn’t work because its fan belt has broken, but not actually replacing the fan belt.
None of the above is good. None works. None will make you feel better in the long term.
The way to release your emotions is to do just that, release them.
Unfortunately we have been conditioned and trained to hold on to our emotions. The media, particularly soap operas and films, have tricked us into believing that once you have a problem you will always have it and the best you can hope for is to get used to the pain.
I would like to share with you that this does NOT have to be the case. You CAN release your pain and trauma so that is simply no longer there. This is a process, a technique, that literally reprograms your neurology so that those emotional pathways don’t run anymore. If you want to release your pain – then why not sign up for Emotional Clearing? Or if you want to make sense of your own pain and become a therapist to enable OTHERS to release their painful emotions then why not take our Esoteric NLP training. The world is crying out for help right now.
Own your own emotions
No one can make you feel anything. Every time you feel anything it is due to your unconscious programming. Bringing them in to consciousness is the first stage of the healing process. To do this, keep a journal of your emotional triggers. Every time you feel a negative emotion write down:
a. What was the emotion?
b. What was the trigger event?
c. What did you say to yourself at the time?
d. What did you think at the time?
e. How did what happened cause you to choose to feel that emotion?
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