Guest Post by Dianne Lowther: If a Thing’s Worth Doing…
Because I’ve been out and away so much this article comes from our fabulous guest writer, Dianne Lowther. Dianne is an award-winning NLP Master Trainer providing soft skills, leadership development in science, IT and engineering businesses. You can read more of her articles here
Someone once asked me, “What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?” It’s a great question and for someone with a fear of failure it can open up possibilities that might not have previously been accessible to conscious awareness. For me, that question tends to steer my thinking into big, long-term projects. Today I’ve got something more mundane in mind.
What’s currently on your ‘to-do’ list that’s not getting done because you’re scared of screwing it up? Is there something that you tell yourself you need to be in a certain mood to achieve? (for example, writing an article, report or book) Is there a task where so much is at stake, that you want to get it right first time? (for example, following up a sales lead, preparing a big speech or presentation, tackling someone about a problem).
If not, you needn’t read the rest of this. Have a great day!
If there IS something that you’re not getting round to doing because you’re afraid of making a mess of it, read on.
If a thing’s worth doing, it’s worth doing badly
So said Sahar Hashemi, founder of Coffee Republic, when I heard her tell her story at a conference some years back. It stuck in my mind, because it horrified my perfectionist little soul so much I couldn’t think about anything else for days!
So, I invite you to think about it too. If a thing’s worth doing, it’s worth doing badly.
After much contemplation, I decided to add two words:
If a thing’s worth doing, it’s worth doing badly – at first
If something is so important that you want to get it right, it’s better to get started and have a go than not do it at all. If you’re worried about messing it up, good. Maybe you haven’t done your ‘homework’ yet, so use that anxiety to motivate you to get started on that research, frame an outcome, create a strategy and then to take action.
It’s rare that you only have one chance to get it right. There will always be other opportunities. The important thing is to make full use of today’s opportunities so that they don’t clutter up tomorrow.
Intuition Or Imagination?
One of the most common questions I hear about spiritual development is “How do I know if it’s real or if it’s my imagination?”
Many people get stuck by their need for things to be rational, logical and make perfect sense. They have a strong attachment to understanding everything in detail and they really struggle to trust their intuition let alone receive any higher level insights or guidance. For many, the problem lies in being able to tell the difference between their own imagination and their intuition. This is one of the biggest blocks to opening your spirituality and psychic development.
So how do you tell if it’s your intuition or your imagination, or even your ego? And how can you learn to differentiate between the two?
Well, here are some simple steps to identify the voice and wisdom from your Higher Self and differentiate it from your imagination.
1. If I’m Hearing Voices Am I Mad?
No, people hear voices inside their head all the time. In fact as you read this you’re probably hearing at least two voices. One is the voice you’re reading these words with, and the other is the voice that’s commenting on what you’re reading. Is it saying “Yes she’s right, I do hear that voice too!” (go on admit it – you heard that voice)
Well rest assured you’re perfectly normal. We all have an inner voice and it’s just the way our mind makes sense of the world. It’s called our inner dialogue. You might have heard yours replaying past conversations, perhaps saying what you wish you had said. Or does yours create future conversations, rehearsing what you would like to say? This “internal dialogue” can be very useful, its helps you process the huge amount of information that you receive through your senses.
Sometimes, however, you might hear your inner critic, and although your inner dialogue certainly can be critical at times, its intention is simply to point things out that you would do differently next time to avoid mistakes.
Your Higher Self may communicate with you as an inner voice and the trick is to be able to identify when it’s your inner dialogue and when it’s your Higher Self.
2. Tune Into The Right Voice
One of the key ways to differentiate the voice of your Higher Self from your own inner dialogue is from the qualities of the voice.
Start by hearing the voice of your normal inner dialogue and notice the qualities of it. Make a note of them on this checklist. HINT: Do this quickly without thinking about it.
- Is it stereo or mono?
- Do you hear words or sounds or both?
- Is the volume loud or soft?
- What is the tone like? Is it soft or harsh?
- What is the timbre or fullness of voice like?
- Where does the voice come from?
- How far away are you from the source of the sound?
- What is the duration of the voice or sound?
- Is the voice continuous or discontinuous? Does it start and stop?
- What is the speed of the voice?
- Is the voice clear or muffled?
Next think about the voice of your Higher Self. Repeat the above questions and notice which qualities are different.
Now you have a simple and easy way of telling the difference.
3. Are Other Senses Involved?
Your Higher Self communicates with you in ways other than a voice or in words – it may use your other senses as well as a voice. It may use pictures or feelings. Remember any time when you had undeniable spiritual experience and what they were like. Did they involve pictures, sounds, feelings or even smells? These are other clues that it is your Higher Self.
4. What The Voices Actually Say
The biggest difference between your inner dialogue and the communication from your Higher Self is that your Higher Self or intuition is the content of the message.
Your inner dialogue will tell you things you already know, and has probably told you many times before. Indeed for many people it’s like a broken record, with the same old thoughts going round and round. It may say things like “you should have / shouldn’t have…” berating yourself for past mistakes.
Whereas your Higher Self will never do this. Instead it will likely tell you what to can do differently next time. It will give you new and inspired suggestions for new actions, thoughts and behaviours.
Your intuition and Higher Self will never tell you what you should or should not do. They will offer suggestions and always respect your free will.
Any voice that tells you what to do, or puts pressure on you to do certain things, is likely to be unhelpful, and my invitation to you is to question it.
5. When You Question It – How Does It Respond?
When you question your Higher Self it never takes offence or minds at all. It simply patiently explains or clarifies the insights it’s giving you.
Whereas if you question your inner dialogue it usually just goes silent, even crumbles and vanishes. Be very cautious if it argues or fights back and berates you even more. This may even be an entity or negative thought form.
6. Does It Stretch You?
A big myth about your Higher Self and high level guides is that they simply tell you everything is, and will be, perfect and that you’re perfect and lovable. Which is of course true.
However your Higher Self will also want what is best for you. And that is usually to evolve, to learn, to grow. In order for you to evolve, learn and grow you will need to take action and step out of your comfort zone. Question any voice that offers empty platitudes. If it is your Higher Self it won’t mind and will further reassure you.
Likewise should your Higher Self offer you any insight that creates feelings of discomfort check in again and ask for more information. Is the outcome in your highest good? And certainly ask for further clarification with your Higher Self. You can even ask it to help you through those feelings of discomfort. Ask it for support to make the changes.
A more exciting life
One thing is for certain. When you can communicate with your Higher Self and intuition your life is much more exciting. You are more able to solve problems when they show up and even prevent them from happening in the first place. Telepathy, clairvoyance, bending time and sending positive thought-forms are not only great fun they make life sweeter in every way.
Being Psychic Is Not Enough
Without a doubt the feeling you get when you first realise that you are psychic is truly amazing. It’s exciting, and thrilling, maybe you can’t quite believe it. Naturally you want to play with your new skills. You’ll probably start offering readings to anyone passing. You delight in helping and advising people. There’s nothing like the feeling you get when you see their look of surprise when you get it right, or hear their astonished comments. Helping others to solve their problems is deeply satisfying.
It’s not long before you get the idea or someone says “You should do this for a living!”
This opens up the possibility of whole new career. You start to dream about leaving the drudgery of your boring 9-5 job, of no longer being at the beck and call of a demanding boss and leaving office politics behind.
Stepping into the world as a professional psychic can seem really attractive and easy, but for every successful psychic, there are hundreds of failed ones who struggle to make ends meet. For all the power of their psychic vision they can’t seem to attract enough clients to pay the bills. The more they struggle financially, the less confident they feel. They start to question themselves and their intuition. “If I’m so psychic, how come I don’t have enough clients to even pay my rent?”
Sadly for many they even go back to the day job, shut down their skills and keep quiet any time anyone mentions spirituality.
So what goes wrong? Why is it that over 80% of all psychics struggle to make ends meet? Here are some tips on how to get started to ensure you become a successful Spiritual Practitioner and get to help as many people as possible.
7 Keys To Psychic Business Success
1. Learn Business Skills
Many psychics’ approach to starting their business is to simply copy what other psychics are doing. They look at what others charge and charge the same or a little less. They create similar leaflets, with similar words and images. How many purple angels, piled up pebbles, or trees in grass fields have you seen?
The result is you won’t stand out from the crowd and if your pricing strategy is to try to be cheaper you’ll only attract the kind of clients who buy the cheapest, and these don’t make the best clients.
If you want to be an engineer you would learn about engineering. If you want to run a spiritual business, you need to learn about how to run a business as well as spirituality.
This might include, marketing, sales, pricing, legal issues, insurance implications and properly drawn up terms and conditions. This may sound overkill if you’re just starting out, however if your business grows you will need them very quickly, so it’s best to get things in place whist you have time and BEFORE you need them. The sad fact is we live in a litigious age and many people are looking for the next person to blame for their life not being as they want, so it pays to make sure you are protected.
2. Learn To Sell And Market Yourself
Meditating, praying and setting your intent to magnetise clients isn’t a marketing strategy. Yes it’s important, but to be successful with your marketing you need to understand the psychology of marketing. Identify your specialist niche and do some market research to find out more about your ideal clients and the problems they might have. Understand the process of converting an interested person into a loyal client.
It’s not about being a pushy sales person, rather being clear about the kinds of problems you solve, and the types of people you work with best and deliver the greatest results for. When you know this and can convey that as a clear message your clients will show themselves to you.
Make sure you focus on the results the client will get when they work with you, rather than what you DO or the techniques you use. Show your client how their life will be different after they have healed their problem. Only give them information about HOW you do that or WHAT therapies you use if they ask.
If your car broke down and you took it to the garage, you wouldn’t want to know all the details of every tool they would use to mend it. You just want to know if they could fix it and by when.
3. Get Over Your Money Hang Ups
Spiritual people often have money problems and issues. There are a lot of strongly held beliefs about spirituality, money and charging. Money and charging for your work becomes fraught with guilt and accusation.
But if you look back to find the source of these beliefs about money and spirituality, you’ll find they are actually medieval and were introduced by the church, who made poverty a noble ideal. Remember though, that at that time the church was linked to the government. Make no mistake; they had a vested interest in keeping the population poor so they would be powerless and easy to control. Notice that those people advocating the nobility of poverty often lived in lavish luxury. Could it be that they wanted to maintain their lifestyle and power?
This idea of the nobility of poverty has permeated into the heart of spiritual community right through to the present day. The result is most healers and psychics finding it hard to charge a fee that will enable them to barely live above the poverty line. If they do they come under criticism from both clients and peers. It’s no wonder that they shrink back to poverty.
But think about this. You wouldn’t expect a gifted sportsperson, entertainer, surgeon or even a plumber or electrician to provide their services for free. Would you be happy to be operated on by a surgeon who had worked all day in a call centre so they could operate in their evenings for free? Or would you feel safer in the hands of someone who could dedicate their whole life solely to their calling? So why should a gifted intuitive work for free? The answer is you shouldn’t. You should charge a karmically balanced fee based on the results you deliver. It’s high time Spiritual Practitioners let go of their money hang ups and stepped into their power around money.
Here are some useful money beliefs that will enable you to support yourself, run a thriving practice and create profound transformation for your clients.
- Money is abundant; there is an infinite amount of money. My success takes from no-one.
- Money is only energy and is neither good nor bad.
- You can help more people more when you’re rich than poor.
- True spiritual enlightenment comes from seeing the divine in everything, including that which many condemn.
- Your clients are not paying you, they are investing in themselves.
- In order for the client to get value your clients need to invest in themselves.
- You have a divine right to be rewarded for the value you give.
If you find any the above challenging then you might want to dig down into the root of this. You may find that you have some unconscious limiting beliefs about money that will sabotage the success that you truly deserve.
4. Have a Karmically Balanced Pricing Strategy
A karmically balanced pricing strategy is one where you are rewarded for the transformation you provide and the energy and attention you have put into making that possible. This includes all the hidden, behind the scene things that most psychics (and clients) don’t know about.
When psychics leave their day job and make the transition from employed to self employed they often charge an hourly rate that is similar to what they were getting from their job.
However what they soon realise is that, with those rates they can’t make ends meet and end up massively overworking. This is because as a self employed person you have to count the hours that you are NOT working face to face with your client. In addition you need to take account of all the business overheads such as room rental, marketing, website costs, travel to events, any staff or bookkeeping costs, and remember tax too!
Another way psychics create karmic imbalance is they forget to take account of the extra time it takes to run a business. When you work for yourself you need to factor in at least 30% of your time will be spent on marketing, sales, admin and growing your business. So take account of this when calculating your hourly rate. Otherwise you’ll end up overworking, stressed out and unable to serve your clients to the level they deserve.
Here are a few signs you don’t’ have a karmically balanced pricing strategy.
- You are working excessive hours, long days and weekends to catch up on admin and business tasks.
- You start to feel resentful of the time and demand your clients make of you.
- You see your clients going to other practitioners who are charging more than you. This is because the universe hates karmic imbalance so it will repel your client.
- You sigh inside when you take on a new client because of all the extra work it will entail.
The bottom line is, if you’re providing value, you need to receive a fair reward, and that might mean raising your fees.
5. Transformation Not Information
Old school psychics used to do all the talking, simply giving the client information. Much of this was of a fairly day to day level and often already known by the client. In the long term this information didn’t make much difference to the client’s life or circumstances. This type of psychic tended to focus on the WOW factor, impressing the client with the accuracy of the information.
However, increasingly clients are demanding something very different. They don’t want information. They want transformation. They come to a Spiritual Practitioner wanting to make changes to the areas of their lives that aren’t working.
This means that the Spiritual Practitioner needs to have skills that can assist the client through that change. The relationship will be over a longer term, rather than just coming for a one-off reading the client will work with the Spiritual Practitioner over a period of months to support the client through that change.
6. Continue To Increase Your Skills
Following on from above, in order to facilitate the kind of transformation clients now demand you need to have some powerful change techniques and that means investing in your training. Being a natural born psychic isn’t enough. Just like a naturally talented artist, sportsperson or even surgeon will train, practice and learn new skills a Spiritual Practitioner needs to stay right at the top of their game, and to do this they need to train, learn, read, and attend workshops, seminars and network with other Spiritual Practitioners.
Every single professional body requires training to a particular standard. To stay accredited practitioners must demonstrate continued development to ensure they are using the most up to date skills and techniques. It is high time Spiritual Practitioners took themselves seriously enough to do this for themselves and be proud of it.
7. Raise your Psy-Q
Most people are familiar with psychics who can pick up day to day information. These hard facts, although impressive, offer information that has only limited value. The Spiritual Practitioners who command the highest fees have developed the ability to access the Higher Mind.
Higher Mind psychics have a high Psy-Q or psychic intelligence quotient. Just like IQ (intelligence quotient) your Psy-Q is a measure of your ability to connect to the higher mind and pure source energy.
Whereas the lower end of the Psy-Q spectrum contains only trivial information and day to day worries, at the higher end of the Psy-Q spectrum you can tap into source itself and insights that relate to life purpose, karma, global issues, rather than simply how to get the job, the guy or where to go on holiday.
These High Psy-Q Spiritual Practitioners can facilitate truly phenomenal transformation both quickly, easily and pain free for their clients. They assist the client to CREATE their future, not predict it, which is why they are in such high demand. It’s this that truly separates the amateurs from the professionals.
Is This Simply Love In Disguise?
It doesn’t seem possible to live without emotional pain does it? Well what if emotions were actually just love in disguise?
Imagine that there’s really only one emotion – the emotion of LOVE
Anything else you feel is resistance to love or the absence or even withholding of love.
Think of love as an energy that flows through you and if that flow is blocked, either from coming IN to you, moving THROUGH you or from LEAVING you, you will feel it as emotion. The word emotion breaks down into E (energy) motion (movement) so it is literally the movement of energy.
When you feel a negative emotion what you actually feel as pain is the resistance to love. What you feel inside is the result of an inner resistance to love. The label we give to a painful emotion refers to the way in which love is being removed from us or resisted.
For example, when we feel sad, that feeling comes from the loss of something or someone we love.
- Anger is the feeling that we were denied love.
- Sadness is the feeling you feel when you have lost someone you love.
- Fear is the feeling that we might lose love.
- Hurt is the feeling that another withheld love, or rejected our love.
- Guilt is the feeling that we didn’t love enough or didn’t give or show enough love.
When love flows freely the feeling is GOOD. When we give love and it is accepted and when we feel that we are loved and are able to accept it. When we don’t feel love being given and we want it, we feel it as pain.
How do you stop the pain?
Most people try to stop the pain by changing the OUTSIDE. They try to get others to change. Sometimes they even change the actual person. The problem with this is that if you still have an underlying need for love then you will likely repeat the same pattern with different people.
However if you change the INSIDE, i.e. you change your need to be shown or given love in a particular way then the tension is gone.
Of course, you can still choose to accept love, and enjoy being loved, without it being a need. Without the tension of that unmet need, and the accompanying painful emotions it makes it much easier for people to love you, show you love and you get even more love.
Think how much easier it is to feel love towards happy, cheerful people, and how much harder it is to show love to people who are resentful, needy or demanding, or gloomy.
Once it’s no longer a need, paradoxically, you’re more likely to get it. You show more love more willingly and you receive more love.
I love you.



