1. Not enough paying clients

By clients I mean people who are willing to pay you pay you for your time, as opposed to those who will happily call you to “find out a bit more about what you do” or those who will come for your free introductory session and go away to “think about it”, never to return.

A client is a client when they agree to pay you. They are a prospective client when they call. They are a prospective client when they see your brochure, or website, but they are not your client until you book a session and pay you for your time.

If you don’t have a steady stream of people who will pay for your time then you have a marketing problem. If you spend more time finding clients than working with clients then you have a marketing problem.

2. Trouble convincing clients to come to come to you.

There are a lot of psychics who are great at lead generation, they get lots of people calling up for a chat or more information, but who never seem to tip over into becoming a paying client. usually this is around fear, fear of change and particularly with psychics, fear of knowing a truth they would rather pretend wasn’t there. Rapport and communication skills is a way to solve this problem.

3. Clients that don’t pay

Depending on how you run your practice you can have clients that simply don’t pay their bill. They may argue the price, claim they didn’t benefit, and worst of all – blame you for not solving their problem for them. Solving this requires simple business boundaries like a contract or terms and conditions. Get them to agree to them before you start working together and make sure they stick to them.

4. Client makes the change but rejects you or your role in making the change

Sometimes a client comes to you makes fantastic changes to themselves and their lives. They are healed. But later they deny that they ever had a problem, or that you ever helped them solve their problem. They might say things like “well it was never that bad” – Even when they had cancer and now they don’t! Or they might say “it was getting better anyway I don’t know how much what you did had to do with it”

In addition it is not uncommon for a client to completely avoid you, snub you if you run into them or reject you. They do this because you remind them of their old problem. This isn’t anything to be concerned about and can be quite healthy for the client. If your ego demands recognition and accolades then it’s you who has the problem.

5. Your client stays stuck

For example you or your client may have identified a problem, a limiting belief or a behaviour that does not serve them or an emotional response that is inappropriate, and no matter what you say or do with your client they don’t change. You know what they have to do but they can’t or don’t seem to do it. Solve this by learning more change and healing techniques and working with higher levels of energy. The more energy you have access to the greater the change in your client.

Another way a client can get stuck is they keep coming back with new problems. This can be genuine, that you have unlocked deeper parts of their unconscious mind and their issues are finally being allowed to surface so they can be dealt with, but sometimes it can indicate they have become dependent on you, and this is a problem. Working in a way that empowers the client and doesn’t disempower them will solve this one.

6. Your client rejects what you offer

Psychics are in the business of getting information that will help your client solve problems, avoid mistakes and make the most of their lives. So why is it that they then reject this very information? It might be that you have presented it in the wrong way, or it can be that they need help to integrate it in a way that supports their karmic journey.

7. You take on your client’s karma

Have you ever noticed that your client has gone away healed, their problem is completely solved, but somehow you start to develop problems that are similar or exactly the same?

When this happens you have inadvertently taken on their karma. Because the laws of karma are so little understood it’s very easy to do this. Usually their problems are an opportunity for them to grow. Find ways to helping them their problems in ways that encourage them to grow and evolve. This is the difference between showing them how, and doing it for them, or the difference between offering a helping hand, and carrying them. Find a way of working that is empowering and you will avoid taking on any client’s karma ever again, and even “work off” some of your own.

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It usually has some kind of negative connotations, and many people think of it as linked to arrogance.

But this is only part of the story. In fact – if you think ego, or working from ego is negative – then you have ego! If you think EGO is negative then that is your ego talking.

Ego is that “stuff” or those feelings that get between you and your connection to the source

It is what gets between you and other people.

If you have any judgment about another’s behavior – that is your own ego. If you think someone is behaving badly you are making a judgment and that is ego.

Even if you are judging something as GOOD that is ego.

Ego is separation, and the ego wants you to remain separate from others and the source. If there is no separation and you become one with the universe the ego disappears. The ego is fighting for its survival and does so through emotions.

EGO is the part of you that is NOT God. Your emotions Edge God Out (EGO).

Sometimes these emotions might seem nice. You might look at another person and think “I am good. They are bad”. This sort of ego-driven comparison might cause you to feel good or superior to others. This might seem to feel good in the short term, but is ultimately unsatisfying and halts your evolution.

The goal of your spiritual evolution is to bring your Higher Self down and merge it with your conscious and unconscious minds. When the unconscious mind is full of blocks, limitations, limiting beliefs and all the other aspects of the ego the Higher Self cannot exist here.

Those blocks, limitations, limiting beliefs are simply ego.

Emotions only Ever Lie

Release your emotions – Free yourself from EGO

When you release your negative emotions, and other blocks, you create “space” for your Higher Self to merge with the rest of your mind.

Sometimes we think the releasing of these blocks will be painful and difficult. But actually the opposite is true. Holding on to our pain and blocks simply causes us more pain.

It’s not about facing our demons – it’s about releasing them. Set them free. Once they are released they will simply evaporate and vanish. When we release them, let them go – our own Higher Self can destroy the pain.

In order to release a negative emotion or block, fist notice it. When this happens it can feel like a problem. It’s only a problem when you think of it like that. In fact, it’s a perfect opportunity to release another part of your ego, to accelerate your evolution and to bring down your Higher Self.

The goal of spiritual evolution is to constantly be self aware and own everything. Not only the parts of ourselves we don’t like, we have become very good at this. But also to own and let go of those emotions we label positive.

Positive emotions are just as seductive, but when we have them and feel them – they are not US. They are something separate to us. When you let go of having or feeling joy, peace, bliss, then you BECOME joy, peace bliss.

Would you rather FEEL joy – or BE joy?

Would you rather FEEL peace – or BE peace?

Would you rather FEEL bliss – or BE bliss?

Free yourself. Free your mind

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If you have been seeking release from your painful emotions you may have tried these methods and been left feeling more of a failure because you couldn’t make them work. I hope you will draw comfort from learning that it is not you. it is not your fault. Here is why many therapies simply don’t work or why you haven’t been able to heal yet. 

1. EXPRESS THEM. 

Many therapies focus on crying, talking about your problem or even shouting and screaming. Rather than releasing them this actually reinforces them in your neurology. Every time you think a thought, feel an emotion or recall a memory, the neurons fire in your brain along the same original path. Each time you do this you will actually be strengthening that path, making it easier for that pathway to be fired up next time. This is why small events in the present can trigger past trauma. Expressing emotions does not release them.

 
2. SUPPRESS THEM.

This is also called denial and we do this in a variety of ways. Most people will simply kid themselves or deny (hence the term) that they have any problems at all. Often emotions are suppressed or anaesthetised out of consciousness with addictions. Smoking, drinking, video games, TV, eating too much or a compulsion to eat a particular thing, even caffeine will anaesthetise your pain.
 
However, the pain and the problems are still there. The neurons are still firing, but out of your conscious awareness. Before you can release the problem you need to be honest with yourself about how you feel. It is OK to feel bad, and you can’t let go of something until you know you are holding it. How do you know if you have suppressed emotions? Here are some telltale signs:  

You overreact to small things

This is known as emotional leakage. The emotions, denied in one area of your life, literally spill out in other areas. So if you are irritable, overly sentimental, get hurt by small things, even road rage, are signs that you could be suppressing emotions in another area.
 
Feeling tired – it takes energy to carry emotions (that’s why it’s called emotional baggage) and it takes even more energy to suppress them. If you are lacking in energy, need more sleep than most people or just have no get up and go. Many of my past clients were suffering from chronic fatigue or ME, which disappeared once they released their emotions.

 
You have physical pain with no diagnosable cause.

Back pain, headaches even migraines are an example of this. You have become so used to suppressing your emotions that the spill out as physical pain. Your body is telling you something in the only way it knows how. So pay attention.
 
Many therapies don’t have an effective technique for bringing emotions to the surface and many therapists are actually afraid of provoking their clients emotions. This is the hardest part of my job as a therapist because I need to activate YOUR pain, which in turn, as an empathy, I feel too. But you cannot release emotions you are not aware of.

3. UNDERSTAND THEM

Do you know someone who knows exactly WHY they have their problems? They know the cause, the events that led to them, how it all happened. They will know and fully understand all the patterns and triggers, and often they will find every opportunity to share them with anyone who seems even remotely interested, they will launch into their “story”. The problem is they still have the problem. Knowing why you have the problem and understanding it is a bit like knowing your car doesn’t work because its fan belt has broken, but not actually replacing the fan belt.
 
None of the above is good. None works. None will make you feel better in the long term.

The way to release your emotions is to do just that, release them.

Unfortunately we have been conditioned and trained to hold on to our emotions. The media, particularly soap operas and films, have tricked us into believing that once you have a problem you will always have it and the best you can hope for is to get used to the pain.
 
I would like to share with you that this does NOT have to be the case. You CAN release your pain and trauma so that is simply no longer there. This is a process, a technique, that literally reprograms your neurology so that those emotional pathways don’t run anymore.  If you want to release your pain – then why not sign up for Emotional Clearing? Or if you want to make sense of your own pain and become a therapist to enable OTHERS to release their painful emotions then why not take our Esoteric NLP training. The world is crying out for help right now. 

Own your own emotions

 No one can make you feel anything. Every time you feel anything it is due to your unconscious programming. Bringing them in to consciousness is the first stage of the healing process. To do this, keep a journal of your emotional triggers. Every time you feel a negative emotion write down:
a. What was the emotion?
b. What was the trigger event?
c. What did you say to yourself at the time?
d. What did you think at the time?
e. How did what happened cause you to choose to feel that emotion?

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I’m sharing some of my personal story of my own recovery of abuse. I feel it is now time to do so. To show and share with you my journey home to myself in the hope that it will help others to move forward and clear the trauma in their lives and their Karma (if you are into that term).

So here goes.

Something that I haven’t shared with many people is that when I was 13 years old, I got involved with a man who was 14 years older than me and happened to be my music teacher. He groomed me and my parents so that I was allowed, even encouraged, to spend increasing amounts of time alone with him.

The relationship eventually became one that might have looked like a conventional partnership, except that I was a child and completely under his control.

The journey took me away from my home country Australia to live with him in London at the age of 15. I was living the life of a middle aged woman with all the responsibilities that entailed. The relationship was one of complete control and isolation. The abuse caused emotional and physical pain that became unbearable so, in the end, in order to survive, I left my body. I moved out into the Higher Self.

The Higher Self is that part of you that is pure spirit, it is also called your Guardian Angel. And for me that’s exactly what it was. During the worst experiences, I visited my Guardian Angel by moving my consciousness into my Higher Self.

Now this might sound like a great place to be, and it was at the time but the long term effects are devastating on a person’s life.

I became intensely psychic. The burden of being aware of every emotion on the planet whilst utterly ill equipped and incapable of handling them was more than I could bear. I saw right through the illusion, to the truth of the world and life but with no skills to handle this devastating truth, I had no option but to shut down. I shut everything down. I completely turned everything off including my awareness of my Guardian Angel.

Part of me was living in the Higher Self but I could not access it. I became only my conscious mind.  

I could barely function in the world. I struggled to achieve anything or even just cope with life, but could only do this with brute strength and the force of my will. The trauma in my unconscious mind would not allow me to access the jewels and resources that lay there. I had shut off my intuition, my emotions and many physical experiences.

Almost every interaction became an emotional minefield, so I shut down more and more of myself, moving into the higher self, but with no awareness. I was a (half) dead man walking, but didn’t even know it. My Guardian Angel was just that, guarding the parts of me that were too painful to access. Once I had the skills and tools to release the pain, then not only could I return home to my body, but my Guardian Angel could come back too. It did this when I was hit by a car.

When I returned, and had cleared my karma, I was able to live a happy, normal and successful life. Well not entirely normal. My high level psychic abilities switched on again and with my neurology completely able to handle the energy of my higher self residing in the body, I could fully use and embody the skill. 

The most empowering step forward for me was when I completely owned my role in co-creating my drama. Recognising this and taking responsibility enabled me to take control of my life and create a future that I choose.

The reason I haven’t shared this before is because I don’t define myself by my past story. 

I do NOT label myself as a victim of abuse.

I am me.

I am home.

Your Guardian Angel cannot exist where there is trauma or pain so if you are holding trauma it will push your angel out. BUT (and it’s a big but) when you know how to ask and connect with your angel, it can release that trauma. This is how Higher Self Therapy works.

How do you connect with your Angel? You learn to access and work with your unconscious mind.  I took many steps on my journey to recovery but the biggest and most significant was being able to access my unconscious mind and release the emotions there.

When the emotion and trauma are released from the unconscious mind not only are you able to “come home to your body and being” but also your Guardian Angel and move in too!

If you want to learn to come home and move into your true self contact me to find out how I can help you to do this.
Here is what one woman said about her journey to awaking and recovery:

“I always wanted and believed I could find an easy way to clear beliefs.  Finding them is the hard bit. But I wanted more, I wanted something that was easier and simpler and so I kept on looking believing I would find it.  For the last few months I have been balancing my beliefs like a juggler.  I didn’t feel that was right for me and when I went to see Lisa we did higher self therapy which is a bit like time line therapy.

I have had all these beliefs floating around about myself, “I am powerless” “I am a bad person” and so on.  When she got to the bottom of it my main core belief was “I AM NOTHING”.  After I saw Lisa I feel very connected and calm.  Along with clearing away lots of past life Karma I have this knowingness that I don’t need to juggle my beliefs anymore.  I don’t even think about me being nothing.  I just think ok that’s the past I was all those things, now “I AM EVERYTHING” and with a whole lot of opportunity in front of me.”

Sarah Strudwick

If this post has brought up any issues for you, then contact me – freeing minds from past and past life trauma is what I specialise in. If you are ready to rewrite your story call me on   0845 468 1501  .