Mistakes people make when trying to ground themselves – part 2
Published November 10th, 2010 | 
Spiritual people often talk about the need to “ground yourself” but what does this 
really mean and how do you know if you need grounding?
In my last newsletter you discovered the signs that you are ungrounded. In this second in a series of three articles you can avoid the mistakes people make when trying to ground themselves. In my next article I’ll reveal the essential steps to grounding yourself.
Being ungrounded happens when we spend a lot of time meditating or being out of the flow of life or even out of our bodies. It’s essential to get connected to our spiritual source for inspiration and guidance but we then need to bring those insights back into the real world and implement them. We need to ground our spiritual visions.
Being ungrounded stops you from functioning effectively in the real world. It’s great to be spiritual, but even more important to effectively use your spiritual wisdom to make changes to the world and your life.
Here are some of the most common mistakes made by spiritual people, and even taught by spiritual teachers in an attempt to become grounded.
1. Meditate
Meditating simply takes you OUT of the physical reality. To ground yourself you need to do something that brings you IN to the physical. Meditating does not do this, instead it takes you into your imaginative mind and dreams.
2. Sit with it
I’ve often heard spiritual people or even teachers recommending “sitting with it” as a way to try to ground yourself. But “sitting with it” doesn’t bring you into the physical reality. It’s neither specific enough nor is it active enough. Although it IS important to come back to the physical reality slowly at some point you will have to stop sitting and start moving about.
3. Contemplate
As with “sitting with it” contemplation takes you back into your mind and imagination, which is the opposite of bringing you back into your body. In fact it keeps you OUT of your physical body.
4. Planning and thinking things through
Yes planning and thinking things through is important but it’s not the best way to start to ground yourself or your spiritual vision. It’s just not active enough. In management training there is a phenomenon known as the “planning trap” where individuals or a team become paralysed by over-planning and making sure they know ALL the steps to the whole process before they take any action. This is a surefire way to never get anything done.
5. Use a grounding visualisation or guided visualisation
This couldn’t be more wrong. When you are ungrounded you are OUT of your body and in your imaginative mind. You’re in the world of your thoughts and dreams. The very last thing you need to do is more imagining. Imagining you are grounded will only keep you out of the physical and in your mind. It’s not active enough and doesn’t involve your body.
So – now you know what NOT to do. I’m sure you’ve experienced some of these or had them recommended to you. Like me, you probably wondered why they didn’t work. The bottom line is that you need to get into your body. In the last article in this series, which you’ll find in my next newsletter, you can discover exactly what you need to do to ground yourself simply and effectively.
Signs that you are ungrounded
Published October 13th, 2010 | Spiritual people often talk about the need to “ground yourself” but what does this really mean and how do you know if you need grounding?
In this first of a series of three articles you can discover the signs that you are ungrounded. Then in my next two articles I’ll be sharing on how to avoid the mistakes people make when trying to ground themselves, and finally will reveal the essential steps to grounding yourself.
Being ungrounded happens when we spend a lot of time meditating or being out of the flow of life or even out of our bodies. It’s essential to get connected to our spiritual source for inspiration and guidance but we then need to bring those insights back into the real world and implement them. We need to ground our spiritual visions.
Being ungrounded stops you from functioning effectively in the real world
It’s great to be spiritual, but even more important to effectively use your spiritual wisdom to make changes to the world and your life.
Here are some clear signs that you’re ungrounded…
1. You feel spacey or even a little dizzy
When you’ve been meditating or doing any energy work your energy body or presence is literally outside of your physical body. Hence the term “out of body”. This makes you feel very spacey. The spaceyness you feel is the space inside your physical body which is usually filled by your energy body. What you feel is the vacuum or space left when your energy body vacates, and is still floating about somewhere in space. Even if you don’t feel this yourself you might notice that you seem invisible to others. This is because, energetically, you’re not really THERE. So others will react as if you’re not there.
2. You find it hard to finish tasks
You set out to do one thing but then find yourself doing something else all together. Did you plan to open a document on your computer but found yourself on the internet? Were you about to make a snack, but found yourself loading the dishwasher instead?
3. You can’t concentrate
You may notice this especially when trying to do tasks that require you to hold a series of steps in your head. If you can’t manage to recall more than one or two steps, or keep getting stuck at the same point this is a sign you are ungrounded.
Also if you are reading and you find that you’ve read the same sentence over and over but still don’t know what it said.
4. You find it hard to make yourself understood
You’re trying to explain something or retell an experience but people simply stare blankly at you. They just don’t get what you are trying to say. You repeat yourself. You start sentences but don’t finish them or change topic half way through.
5. You find it hard to understand others
You can hear the words. You understand the meaning of each individual word, but have no clue about the overall message. You simply cannot understand what other people are saying to you. You stare blankly back wondering what they are talking about.
People ask you a question and you don’t even realise they’ve spoken or you may answer in a completely different question or totally inappropriately.
There seems to be no connection between what’s going on inside your mind and the outside world. You might also find it hard to keep up with the conversation, not realising that others have moved on to a different subject, so you’re always one or two topics behind.
6. You get distracted or your mind wanders
You start to do something, and then find yourself doing something else entirely. You walk into a room and can’t remember what you came in for. You realise you’re holding something but can’t remember why. For example, you car keys, even though you don’t remember deciding to go out or where you might have been going to.
7. You lose track of time
This can cause you to be either late or early. You’re just not in the same time zone as everyone else. You are not only out of your body, you are out of time as well. Time travel is an important and useful spiritual tool (similar to bi-location), but you must be able to re-enter the NOW. When your attention and energy is on the past or future you will be out of the NOW and “out of time”. Your presence is not in the present. As with #1 you might seem invisible to others. It’s because you are not really there.
So –How grounded are you?
The above are just a few of the most obvious signs that you are not grounded and that your energy body and presence isn’t fully in your physical body. You might notice similarities with jet lag, being drunk or under the influence of certain drugs. This is no accident as all of those will also cause your energy body to move out of your physical body or alter your consciousness.
Look out for my next two articles where you can avoid the mistakes people make when trying to ground themselves and some simple effective steps to ground yourself.
3 steps to psychic abilities
Published September 8th, 2010 | Camilla came to see me for a reading. She’d had readings in the past and often been told that she could be psychic too, but although she’d tried several courses and CD’s in the past she still didn’t feel she could do it. she didn’t’ have the confidence to speak out when she picked something up, and constantly questioned the information that came through.
With so many psychic development courses around how do you choose the right one for you?
Following years of painstaking research and work I’ve developed a process for enabling anyone to repair their psychic circuitry, it has a 95% success rate (the 5% who don’t become psychic usually didn’t do their homework).
1. Understand how the mind works.
Rather than one mind you actually have three.
- The Conscious Mind
- The Unconscious Mind
- Your Higher Self.
The Conscious Mind
This is everything you can pay attention to in the present moment and is limited to about 7 – 9 thoughts at a time.
Your Unconscious Mind
This is everything that you are NOT conscious of (simple eh?). it is all your memories, learned behaviours, and beliefs. The unconscious mind can think about 2 million thoughts at a time, so it has access to much more information if we can access it consciously.
Your Higher Self
Your higher self is that part of you that is pure spirit or soul. It is the part of you that is God (or the universe) that exists inside each individual. It is also sometimes called your guardian angel.
Your higher self is your connection to God and the higher realms of spirituality. It is your guardian spirit or guardian angel. It is completely trustworthy, loving, forgiving and supportive.
Intuition, inspiration and your psychic abilities come through the Higher Self.
Notice on the diagram that you can only communicate with your higher self VIA your unconscious mind. It forms the link and is the pathway. However, it is in your unconscious mind where the your blocks to your development lie.
2. Repair the circuitry by healing and removing blocks
Limiting beliefs and negative emotions in the unconscious mind form those “blocks” to your development that most people are all too familiar with. Perhaps you’ve had that experience of knowing that there is something to connect to but not quite being able to connect with it. Maybe you can hear the voice of your spirit guide only as a faint whispering but you can’t work out what it’s saying. Or have you ever caught those fuzzy glimpses out of the corner of your eye but not been able to work out what the vision is showing you?
This is why removing those blocks and limiting beliefs is essential. Repairing your circuitry however takes more than wishing or willing them away, it requires a proven technique to remove and heal them completely.
3. Increase your energetic vibration
Once you have repaired the circuits you are safe to “run” more energy through them. This is done by tapping in and connecting deeply to the source or all energy.
When you do this the experience is nothing short of pure bliss.
Why become psychic anyway?
During my investigations I discovered the science behind psychic abilities and intuition. I found out how they work, how to train others and myself to enhance intuitive and psychic thinking, and to open to a more spiritual way of living. The results are that you can become happier, more content, and more resourceful in times of crisis, and they become better at problem solving.
Being psychic isn’t just about getting information. It’s a whole way of being. It’s the ultimate personal development programme that can get you back in control of your life.
With the right techniques enable you to live a life in alignment with who you are and become a beacon of light and leadership that inspires others.
All of this can only be a good thing.
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By Dr. Lisa Turner
Stop Blaming Yourself for Self Sabotage
Published August 18th, 2010 | 
Have you ever made a resolution to do something or stop doing something only to find yourself doing the exact opposite? And when that happens it’s as if you didn’t do it at all, as if someone else stepped in and took control and you found yourself behaving in a completely different way, and you felt powerless to stop it. As if you had stepped aside and were watching whilst someone else sabotaged your success.
You’re completely aware of doing it, don’t want to behave that way, yet you seemed powerless to stop it.
It can also be experienced as indecision; part of you wants to do one thing, whilst part of you wants another. Or maybe you have a part of you that wants to have faith, but part of you that has doubts.
If you’ve ever felt this, don’t worry, you are not possessed, you may simply have a “parts conflict”. This is where a part of neurology has separated off from the rest of you to create a “part”. It’s still you, or a part of you. It still has a positive intention but uses destructive behaviour in a misguided attempt to achieve its goal.
Usually parts are formed during significant emotional events or traumatic times. During these events a bit of us gets fragmented off, usually as a protection mechanism.
Does part of you want to grow, whilst part of you wants to stay safe?
The most common forms of parts conflicts are when one part of you wants to stride ahead and grow whilst another part wants to keep you safe. The conflict comes in because growing has some risk and the part of you that wants to keep you safe will stop you moving forward with fears and doubts.
Why Georgina fell off her chair
For much of her life Georgina had wanted to grow and move forward but part of her kept sabotaging her success. It did this by procrastinating, or simply NOT doing the very things that she knew would lead to her success. As a result she frequently failed to meet deadlines which then led to… well… failure (her words).
A few weeks ago, on our Spiritual Practitioner workshop, I taught a powerful technique to integrate the conflicting parts. The result was that ALL parts of the individual start co-operating and working together. During this process a large amount of energy is released. The part stores energy and when it’s integrated this energy is released and becomes available as the person becomes whole.
For most people this is a pretty extraordinary feeling. Waves or heat, tingling and pressure move up and down, and across and around the body. For Georgina the experience was particularly profound, so much so that she literally “fell off her chair”. She described it as feeling like she was pushed off her chair.
In only a few moments she was up and smiling and with a flushed and excited face saying how amazing and extraordinary the experience was. She now feels completely different.
How do I know if I have a part?
- You totally believe in yourself, or spirit, but then doubts creep in.
- You set a goal, are totally going for it, but then stop for no reason or otherwise start to sabotage your success.You believe you deserve good things, but also feel unworthy.
- Do you sometimes look in the mirror and not recognise yourself?
- You find yourself behaving in ways that you don’t like, don’t want to do, but feel powerless to stop.
Is it a part or full time problem?
It may, of course, NOT be a part it may be a full time problem. Full time problems are usually limiting beliefs and these can be differentiated from parts because they operate all the time. So you are fully congruent about your limitations or limiting beliefs. If this is the case it’s probably a full time problem and not a part.
Now you can stop blaming yourself for self sabotage
So the very next time you find yourself doing something you didn’t want to do you can stop beating yourself up about it. It’s not YOU, but only a PART of you.
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