1. Not enough paying clients

By clients I mean people who are willing to pay you pay you for your time, as opposed to those who will happily call you to “find out a bit more about what you do” or those who will come for your free introductory session and go away to “think about it”, never to return.

A client is a client when they agree to pay you. They are a prospective client when they call. They are a prospective client when they see your brochure, or website, but they are not your client until you book a session and pay you for your time.

If you don’t have a steady stream of people who will pay for your time then you have a marketing problem. If you spend more time finding clients than working with clients then you have a marketing problem.

2. Trouble convincing clients to come to come to you.

There are a lot of psychics who are great at lead generation, they get lots of people calling up for a chat or more information, but who never seem to tip over into becoming a paying client. usually this is around fear, fear of change and particularly with psychics, fear of knowing a truth they would rather pretend wasn’t there. Rapport and communication skills is a way to solve this problem.

3. Clients that don’t pay

Depending on how you run your practice you can have clients that simply don’t pay their bill. They may argue the price, claim they didn’t benefit, and worst of all – blame you for not solving their problem for them. Solving this requires simple business boundaries like a contract or terms and conditions. Get them to agree to them before you start working together and make sure they stick to them.

4. Client makes the change but rejects you or your role in making the change

Sometimes a client comes to you makes fantastic changes to themselves and their lives. They are healed. But later they deny that they ever had a problem, or that you ever helped them solve their problem. They might say things like “well it was never that bad” – Even when they had cancer and now they don’t! Or they might say “it was getting better anyway I don’t know how much what you did had to do with it”

In addition it is not uncommon for a client to completely avoid you, snub you if you run into them or reject you. They do this because you remind them of their old problem. This isn’t anything to be concerned about and can be quite healthy for the client. If your ego demands recognition and accolades then it’s you who has the problem.

5. Your client stays stuck

For example you or your client may have identified a problem, a limiting belief or a behaviour that does not serve them or an emotional response that is inappropriate, and no matter what you say or do with your client they don’t change. You know what they have to do but they can’t or don’t seem to do it. Solve this by learning more change and healing techniques and working with higher levels of energy. The more energy you have access to the greater the change in your client.

Another way a client can get stuck is they keep coming back with new problems. This can be genuine, that you have unlocked deeper parts of their unconscious mind and their issues are finally being allowed to surface so they can be dealt with, but sometimes it can indicate they have become dependent on you, and this is a problem. Working in a way that empowers the client and doesn’t disempower them will solve this one.

6. Your client rejects what you offer

Psychics are in the business of getting information that will help your client solve problems, avoid mistakes and make the most of their lives. So why is it that they then reject this very information? It might be that you have presented it in the wrong way, or it can be that they need help to integrate it in a way that supports their karmic journey.

7. You take on your client’s karma

Have you ever noticed that your client has gone away healed, their problem is completely solved, but somehow you start to develop problems that are similar or exactly the same?

When this happens you have inadvertently taken on their karma. Because the laws of karma are so little understood it’s very easy to do this. Usually their problems are an opportunity for them to grow. Find ways to helping them their problems in ways that encourage them to grow and evolve. This is the difference between showing them how, and doing it for them, or the difference between offering a helping hand, and carrying them. Find a way of working that is empowering and you will avoid taking on any client’s karma ever again, and even “work off” some of your own.

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Anyone who has kids, knows any kids or has ever been a kid (OK that’s everyone) will have heard the cry from the backseat of the car “are we nearly there yet?”

It seems to be hardwired into us to want to get “there”, wherever “there” is for you. No-one seems to enjoy the journey. Yet isn’t that what life is all about?

Why did you choose to be born or incarnate? Was it so that you could charge headlong towards your death? No.

Most philosophies are based around the principle of evolution, and believe that we incarnate so that we can evolve. So does that mean we should be charging headlong towards some evolutionary goal that might be called “Enlightenment”. NO not that either.

The purpose of life is to be evolving, not be evolved. There is no “there”. The journey is all there is.

Outrageous goals

Last week I set myself an outrageous goal of getting 100 sign ups to my SSCP preview teleseminar. I didn’t quite make it. I got 76 at final count, with 45 dialling in to listen live.

So did I achieve my goal? Not quite. I was 24 short.

Now there are two reactions I could have.

1. I could go into despair and say – how terrible, I set a goal and didn’t get it. I could easily choose to feel really bad about not reaching my target. Or….

2. I could choose to feel really happy that I had increased my personal best for a teleseminar by 3.5 times. I could choose to believe that this is enough and a fantastic step forward in my business and life.

The reason I’m thinking about the whole idea of getting “there” is that on Saturday Psycademy is 5 years old. On any anniversary I tend to think back to what I’ve achieved over the last year, and what I’ve achieved in the last 5 years.

It has been an amazing journey. Not always easy, not always fun. I had to remortgage my house 3 times to set it up. I had some Christian fundamentalists threaten to take out an injunction to keep me out of their venue. Apparently I AM the devil for suggesting that there are other ways to God, and when I went in to enquire if I could rent their hall out for a training, in a very loving Christian way they had their security guards frog march me out of the building. And I still get people telling my courses “are all b*****s”, or giving me a hard time when they don’t agree with my newsletter content. I tell them where the unsubscribe link is.

BUT – despite all the trials, tests, tribulations and troubles – I am still here and yes. I have made it. Where have I made it to? Well… HERE of course.  

Here I am, gathering more clients, more students, my database constantly growing. I get wonderful feedback from my students, clients and colleagues. I’ve been featured in the press from Psychologies to the Sun, Marie Claire to Business press. I’ve even been on the TV (only sky) and the radio.

Have I gotten to where I want to be? No, not yet, but that’s because all goals are like the horizon. They are always moving further away. We need to set higher and higher targets AND we need to celebrate our achievements.

Happy people focus on both what they want to achieve AND celebrate what they already HAVE achieved.

So I am celebrating my small achievement, of bringing Psycademy into existence and persevering with it through the challenges to get to where I am.

 If you are reading this and like my newsletters, or anything about Psycademy – I’m going to ask a small favour – just send a little message back saying “HURRAH!” and if you want and have time I invite you to share with me some of your own successes from the past 5 years. Just post here on this blog.

And on that note HURRAH!!

 This issues top tip:

• 1. Set an outrageous goal for the future and enjoy the journey and all the steps you take towards achieving that goal.
• 2. Think back to where you were at some point in the past and notice how far you have come. Celebrate that achievement.

Oh please God…

Have you ever prayed? I mean really prayed? Perhaps in times of desperation you have begged for help from a higher being. Maybe you offered something in exchange for solving a problem or made a promise to do or give something later. But what happens when they don’t get answered? In your hour of need how would it be if you knew that you prayers would be answered?

There has been a lot of publicity about manifesting, the law of attraction and cosmic ordering recently. If you have tried this and found that your order did not get delivered you might have wondered why. Is it possible to order or pray for and receive anything you wanted?

Prayer is a process and when you know the system you can make it work for you. There is both and art and a science to prayer when used can, quite literally, manifest your desires.

The art and science of prayer?

Prayers are answered according to this equation.

Desired Outcome = Function of (Clarity, Energy, Time)

What this says is that to get what you want you need three things: Clarity, Energy and Time.

Time is the time it takes for your desire to manifest, between you praying for what you want and it showing up in your life.

Clarity is how clear you are about what you want. This is covered in coaching, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and in many books on manifesting, law of attraction, and cosmic ordering. But if you have ever tried to manifest by simply thinking about and focussing on what you want and wondered why it doesn’t show up, or why it takes a long time, the reason is that it misses “Energy” out of the equation.

Energy refers to your personal life force energy. Sometimes referred to as Chi, Ki, Prana or Electromagnetic fluid.

If you have high energy, and high clarity, your desire will manifest very quickly.

If you have high energy but LOW clarity, you will manifest things very quickly, but they will be whatever you happened to be thinking about at the time. When this happens it can feel like your life is completely out of control.
If you have high clarity but LOW energy, you will manifest exactly what you want, but it will take a long time to do so.

Energy and Matter

Money is not real. It is an agreement based on energy.

We use money, or cash as a symbol of an energy exchange. Simply because it is easier to fold than chickens.
You need energy to manifests things. Physical things exist in the physical world, but at a quantum level they are only energy temporarily suspended in a physical form. To bring them into this physical form requires energy.

Einstein developed a mathematical relationship between matter and energy. Although this is usually used in nuclear physics it can have a metaphysical and metaphorical meaning for manifestation.

E = mc²

Energy = Mass x the speed of light squared.

This formula tells us that energy and matter are interchangeable. Everything that exists in the material world has a direct correlation to the energy required to create AND sustain it.

It takes energy to create or change something. That energy is YOUR internal life-force energy. You have as much material success as you can energetically sustain. If you increase your wealth but do nothing to increase your ability to sustain it you will lose it. This is why lottery winners lose or squander their winnings quickly. If they had the energy to sustain that wealth they would already HAVE that wealth.

Likewise those who have high energy and wealth recover quickly from any losses.

Those people who have a lot of money do so because they have a lot of energy. If you want to increase your wealth – increase your energy.

Money is only energy. You have as much money as you have energy. ncrease your energy and money will follow. Increase your money without increasing your energy, and the money will leave.

So what is this energy, how can you increase it and use it for manifesting?

Path of manifestation – through the four bodies.

Your being consists of four aspects or four “bodies”
The path of manifestation begins in the spiritual body and travels down through all the bodies until finally it manifests in the physical reality.

All manifestation happens in 4 stages, these correspond to the four bodies. Spiritual, Mental, Emotional, Physical. Anything you want to manifest has to pass through each of these four bodies, in four steps. If you are not manifesting what you want, that’s because it got stuck in one of these four bodies.

For example, take the manifestation of a new career; it passes through the four bodies like this…

Spiritual.

You first become aware of an inspiration or the idea that you would like a career change. You might try to ignore it for a while but eventually the call becomes too loud and you pay attention.

Mental.

Having had the idea you start to think through your options and choices. You might do research into different careers and ask questions. This is an intellectual process where you make the decision about which career to move to.

Emotional.

Once you have made a choice about your career you begin to get excited, and passionate. You really burn with the desire to achieve your outcome.

Physical. Taking action is a physical act, something you DO that moves you into your new career. You enrol on the training, you apply for the job, and you send out the application forms, you call people up, you go for interviews. There may be a number of actions that need to be taken until you have your new career and you do will get no results.

Energy in the four bodies.

The stronger the energy in each of your four bodies the quicker and more reliably you will manifest your chosen outcomes. Here are some ways you can increase the energy in each body and the bonus is increasing the energy in any one body will have a positive effect on all the others.

Physical Body

The physical body comprises the energy particles which have formed into subatomic particles, which form the atoms, molecules, cells and bodily structures that make up YOU. Energy in the physical body is the easiest to understand, clear and raise. The main elements are food, exercise and environment.

Eat good food. Make sure it is food that is right for you, rather than the latest fashion diet programme. To find out if any particular food is good for you pay attention to your energy levels 60 – 90 minutes after you have eaten it. If it increases your energy levels, it is good for you. If it decreases your energy levels don’t eat it again.

Be wary of food that causes you to go into “energy overdraft”. Sugar, caffeine etc will increase your energy immediately after eating or drinking them, but later will cause your energy levels to plummet.

Exercise is essential for physical energy levels and strength. Take part in any exercise that you enjoy and that you feel benefits your body. You may like to try different types of exercise before you find the right one for you, and you may have several that you take part in at different times for different reasons. The general and golden rule is if it feels good, do it more.

Taking care of your physical body in the way that is best for you will increase the physical energy.

Take Action

Taking action is where you can increase your success at manifesting, by ensuring your actions are directed towards achieving what you want. If you want to get fit or lose weight, eating cake and sitting on the sofa will not move you towards this outcome, whereas exercising and eating less will. If your actions are out of alignment with what you want to achieve you will be unsuccessful. If your actions are in alignment with what you want to achieve, it doesn’t guarantee the outcome, but it does significantly increase the chances.

Emotional Body

Your emotional body contains all your memories and emotional pattering, both negative and positive.

Emotions have a purpose and that purpose is to tell you that something is not right. However when we hold on to negative emotions from the past they are not helpful and actually damage the body. We call this “unresolved negative emotions”. Most people have unresolved negative emotions to some degree. If, when, you recall a memory of the past you feel a negative emotion then you have unresolved negative emotions. This is un released emotion from the past affecting the present.

Fear of failure or anger or resentment of successful people is a common block to manifestation.

For many people the idea that it is possible to be free of painful emotions from the past seems impossible. In fact not only is it possible but also easy using the latest emotional releasing therapies. Time Line Therapy ^TM and Higher Self Therapy are highly effective at releasing ALL negative emotions.

Limiting Beliefs

A belief is anything we hold to be true, or think of as being true. A belief is limiting if it stops us being, doing or having what we want to be, do or have.

Our beliefs are often deeply unconscious, but will guide, influence and affect every aspect of our life. If you believe “you have to work hard for money” or something similar, you will experience just that. The unconscious mind controls and filters your perceptions, so if you came upon an opportunity to make money in a way that was easy, your unconscious mind would simply delete that information so you could not act on it. You would simply miss opportunities and continue to work hard for your money. Because beliefs are unconscious, the only way to know what beliefs you are running is to take a look at what your life is like. If you manifest success easily then you likely have healthy beliefs that support this, if your life is more difficult or challenging than you would like then you might want to look at what you believe.

Negative emotions like anger, sadness, fear, hurt and guilt and all limiting beliefs act as huge emotional blocks that simply stop the manifestation process in its tracks.

The unconscious mind understands emotions, but not logic. Emotions do not make sense, and they are not meant to. You cannot “think” or “rationalise” emotions away. Emotional problems require emotional therapies.

It is easy to increase the energy in your emotional body by releasing negative emotions and limiting beliefs. There are many effective techniques such as Time Line Therapy^TM or Higher Self Therapy.

When considering any technique it’s essential that they actually RELEASE the negative emotions. Releasing doesn’t mean you simply “feel better” not that you have “worked through them” or now “understand them”. Releasing means they have gone, you no longer feel them; they are released, deleted, absent, no more. You will still have the memory of all past events but you can remember them without the painful emotions. This clears the path of manifesting through the emotional body.

Mental Body

The Mental body is where your logical rational thoughts happen. You use this to make good decisions, manage complex tasks and focus your attention. Your mental body acts like a focussing lens to direct your energy towards what you want.

Perhaps you have noticed that wealthy people, self made millionaires demonstrate an ability to juggle many tasks, reduce complex situations to simple ones and are extremely mentally dextrous. They are masters at planning. It is this faculty that enables them to get and stay wealthy. They can weigh up risks and don’t take stupid ones. They can filter out unnecessary or distracting information with a mental clarity that can literally cut through the nonsense like a knife.
Increasing the energy in your mental body will increase your ability to reason and use logic. Your mental body is in charge of your thoughts and thinking.

You can increase the energy in your mental body by exercising it, in the same way as you would exercise your physical body, by using it, stretching it and challenging it.

Rich people are bigger than their problems. Poor people are smaller than their problem.

Increase the energy in your Mental Body

Self Mastery

Master yourself and be true to your word. Make decisions and stick to them. Make commitments and promises and stick to them. Use your willpower. When you make a decision to do something, regardless of how hard it gets, keep going. Most people fail or are unsuccessful simply because they do not have the self discipline to stick at something. They simply give up.

Challenge yourself

Other ways to increase the energy in your mental body is to increase your mental and intellectual abilities, by challenging and exercising your mind. Learn new things, read more, and different types of books, take courses, explore topics and areas that are new to you and cause you to think in a new way.

The Spiritual body or Higher Self

The spiritual body is pure spirit. It is the part of you that yearns to know god and have spiritual experiences which are beyond words. It is through your spiritual body that you receive the inspiration for what to manifest, and for HOW to manifest it.

What is delivered by your higher self may be the full, ultimate and final complete achievement of your goal, and it may be that your higher self opens up the path for you to achieve it.

Your higher self does this by sending you inspiration. This might be: the plot and words for the book, the idea for a great new product, the solution to your marketing problem, what to say in your advertisement, or the perfect thing to say to a potential client the closes the deal. Throughout history great thinkers have received inspiration from their Higher Selves, the structure of DNA, and the theory of relativity, the composition of the atom, equations and theories for solving many scientific, conundrums, artistic visions and the solutions to problems.

When you can connect to your higher self and receive information and insight your goals and desires become easy to manifest. Your Higher Self will send you what you need to achieve your goal. All you need to do is to ask.

Failed Manifestation

If you are not manifesting what you want it is because the manifestation process is getting stuck in one of the four bodies. If the process has not fully worked through or has skipped a body the process in will loop but never manifest. If you start to take action before you have thought the idea through in the mental body, you will take the wrong action. Or if you take action before you clear your negative emotions, you will continually fail to achieve your dreams, or even self sabotage. If you take no action, but continue to ask the universe, your desire will not manifest.
Once you are really clear about what you want. Consciously and with intent bring the manifestation process through each body.

Ask your higher self for help; be ready to receive the inspiration. Clarify your choices and make decisions. Create a plan. Notice where you are confident and where you have any fears or doubts and release them. Finally take appropriate action.

If you want to increase your income, then increase your capacity to generate and maintain energy in all of your four bodies. If you want to grow your wealth, grow yourself, evolve, change and improve.

We have a physical body so that we can experience the physical reality. One aspect of the physical reality is wealth, and money. Money is not real, it is only energy.
To reject any aspect of the physical reality is to resist it. Resistance creates problems and can feel painful. Money is a powerful motivator. Money is very close to some of the most potent and powerful forms of energy. It is an energy so powerful that many spiritual people reject it. But to do so is to deny yourself the pleasures and joy of the physical reality, which is the very purpose for your incarnating into flesh.

I’m not suggesting we are greedy or we pursue money for its own value. But if you are spiritual person who wants to make a difference in the world you need power, and with power comes money. Indeed money, power and energy are interchangeable. If you are rich it is because you have the energy to sustain that wealth. If you are poor and are given money but do not have the energy to sustain it the wealth will disappear.

When we incarnate from spirit, our consciousness moves down from the spiritual body into the mental body. At this point although we are aware of the material realm, we have not yet mastered it. At the same time, when our consciousness has awakened to the mental body we will have some memory of the spiritual realms and yearn to return there.

This yearning we may try to satisfy by seeking spiritual enlightenment. We may reject the material realm. We may try to ascend back to the spiritual world from whence we came. Indeed many people at this time endeavour to achieve this. They go on spiritual retreats and meditate. They join ashrams and orders. But without the grounding that comes from mastering the physical realms ascension is impossible.

With spiritual techniques and knowledge you can master the physical realm. Indeed it is only with spiritual techniques that you can achieve ascension. You must embrace the consciousness within all of your bodies until it is grounded in the physical and then you can ascend.

If you would like to know more about how you can Master Material Wealth then take a look at the Lightworker’s Guide to Mastering Materialism. It is an essential step to becoming a Lightworker.

2. They find lessons while others only see problems.

3. They are solution focused.

4. They consciously and methodically create their own success.

5. They may be fearful, but they are not controlled or limited by fear.

6. They ask the right questions — the ones which put them in a positive mindset and emotional state.

7. They rarely complain.

8. They don’t blame, and take complete responsibility for their actions and outcomes.

9. They always find a way to maximize their potential, and use what they have effectively.

10. They are busy, productive and proactive.

11. They align themselves with like-minded people.

12. They are ambitious.

13. They have clarity and certainty about what they want.

14. They innovate instead of imitate.

15. They don’t procrastinate.

16. They are life-long learners.

17. They are glass half full people, while still being practical and down-to-earth.

18. They consistently do what they need to do, regardless of how they are feeling on a given day.

19. They take calculated risks.

20. They deal with problems quickly and effectively.

21. They don’t believe in, or wait for, fate, destiny, chance or luck.

22. They take action before they have to.

23. They are more effective than most at managing their emotions.

24. They are good communicators.

25. They have a plan for their life and they work methodically to turn that plan into a reality.

26. They become exceptional by choice.

27. They work through the tough stuff that most would avoid.

28. They have identified what is important to them and they do their best to live a life which is reflective of those values.

29. They have balance. They know that money is a tool and ultimately, it’s just another resource.

30. They understand the importance of discipline and self-control.

31. They are secure in their sense of self-worth.

32. They are generous and kind.

33. They are happy to admit mistakes and apologize.

34. They are adaptable and embrace change.

35. They keep themselves in shape physically.

36. They work hard and are not lazy.

37. They are resilient.

38. They are open to, and more likely to act upon, feedback.

39. They don’t hang out with toxic people.

40. They don’t invest time or emotional energy into uncontrollable things.

41. They are happy to swim against the tide.

42. They comfortable with their own company.

43. They set high standards for themselves.

44. They don’t rationalize failure.

45. They know how to relax, enjoy what they have in their life and to have fun.

46. Their career is not their identity, it’s their job.

47. They are more interested in what is effective than in what is easy.

48. They finish what they start.

49. They realize that not only are they physical and psychological beings, but emotional and spiritual creatures as well.

50. They practice what they preach.

Sources: * Lifehack May 12, 2008