So what is OK for you, is NOT OK for others.

So rather than selling ethically – just following some set of rules, sell with integrity instead.

Integrity means that you are coming from a place of wholeness, of not needing the sale. When you do this you put the control and decision right back with the client. Ethics become redundant then.

Every time you speak to a potential client they will pick up your intent.  They will be tuning into your energy, and the underlying message of what you want. Your desires are being broadcast.

If you are trying to persuade them to work with you because you need the money they will pick this up. People are much more sensitive than we usually give them credit for. People are also fundamentally very good at keeping themselves safe, so if they need therapy or healing and they sense that the therapists main intention for working with them is for financial reward they will not feel safe. Or at least not safe enough to book a session with you.

Clients come to therapists because they are in pain, physical or emotional pain and they need to feel safe and secure. They need to feel that throughout their process that the main thing YOU have on your mind is THEIR wellbeing. If you are working from a place of lack of abundance or needing the money at any time, your clients will pick up on this and you will both loose out.

You will lose the opportunity to facilitate wonderful change, and your client misses the opportunity to heal at a deep and profound level.

Now you might be thinking that you are a good person and of course you will only act out of love and I’m certainly not suggesting that this is the case. But if you have any sense of fear that there won’t be enough, of worry about being able to pay your bills, of needing the money more than they need the therapy then you will be doing yourself and your clients a great disservice.

When you are in a place of lack it’s not easy to not think that you need the money, and a way round this is to adopt the idea that you are here to serve your purpose, skills and gift. Your skills, talents and abilities are there for the purpose of serving, both you – to support and sustain you, and your client – to facilitate healing and transformation. By thinking and focussing on how you can serve you will find a perfect balance, where the interaction serves both of you in a karmically balanced way.

Adopt this “mantra” whenever you are connecting with a potential or existing client “how may I serve? How may I serve?”

I imagine that for whatever reason this person has approached me because I can serve them in some way. And that might be to direct them to another coach. If speaking to me helps them decide on any outcome that moves them forward then I have served.

Next time you are about to speak to a potential client repeat this mantra to yourself. Let go of any attachment to the outcome. Notice the shift in the energy of the exchange. Notice the changes in how clients respond to you.

And you’ll probably get more clients too.

Find out how you can increase you’re connection to source energy and abundance then I invite you to have a free emotional audit

Find and remove blocks to your success.

By Dr. Lisa Turner

1. Not enough paying clients

By clients I mean people who are willing to pay you pay you for your time, as opposed to those who will happily call you to “find out a bit more about what you do” or those who will come for your free introductory session and go away to “think about it”, never to return.

A client is a client when they agree to pay you. They are a prospective client when they call. They are a prospective client when they see your brochure, or website, but they are not your client until you book a session and pay you for your time.

If you don’t have a steady stream of people who will pay for your time then you have a marketing problem. If you spend more time finding clients than working with clients then you have a marketing problem.

2. Trouble convincing clients to come to come to you.

There are a lot of psychics who are great at lead generation, they get lots of people calling up for a chat or more information, but who never seem to tip over into becoming a paying client. usually this is around fear, fear of change and particularly with psychics, fear of knowing a truth they would rather pretend wasn’t there. Rapport and communication skills is a way to solve this problem.

3. Clients that don’t pay

Depending on how you run your practice you can have clients that simply don’t pay their bill. They may argue the price, claim they didn’t benefit, and worst of all – blame you for not solving their problem for them. Solving this requires simple business boundaries like a contract or terms and conditions. Get them to agree to them before you start working together and make sure they stick to them.

4. Client makes the change but rejects you or your role in making the change

Sometimes a client comes to you makes fantastic changes to themselves and their lives. They are healed. But later they deny that they ever had a problem, or that you ever helped them solve their problem. They might say things like “well it was never that bad” – Even when they had cancer and now they don’t! Or they might say “it was getting better anyway I don’t know how much what you did had to do with it”

In addition it is not uncommon for a client to completely avoid you, snub you if you run into them or reject you. They do this because you remind them of their old problem. This isn’t anything to be concerned about and can be quite healthy for the client. If your ego demands recognition and accolades then it’s you who has the problem.

5. Your client stays stuck

For example you or your client may have identified a problem, a limiting belief or a behaviour that does not serve them or an emotional response that is inappropriate, and no matter what you say or do with your client they don’t change. You know what they have to do but they can’t or don’t seem to do it. Solve this by learning more change and healing techniques and working with higher levels of energy. The more energy you have access to the greater the change in your client.

Another way a client can get stuck is they keep coming back with new problems. This can be genuine, that you have unlocked deeper parts of their unconscious mind and their issues are finally being allowed to surface so they can be dealt with, but sometimes it can indicate they have become dependent on you, and this is a problem. Working in a way that empowers the client and doesn’t disempower them will solve this one.

6. Your client rejects what you offer

Psychics are in the business of getting information that will help your client solve problems, avoid mistakes and make the most of their lives. So why is it that they then reject this very information? It might be that you have presented it in the wrong way, or it can be that they need help to integrate it in a way that supports their karmic journey.

7. You take on your client’s karma

Have you ever noticed that your client has gone away healed, their problem is completely solved, but somehow you start to develop problems that are similar or exactly the same?

When this happens you have inadvertently taken on their karma. Because the laws of karma are so little understood it’s very easy to do this. Usually their problems are an opportunity for them to grow. Find ways to helping them their problems in ways that encourage them to grow and evolve. This is the difference between showing them how, and doing it for them, or the difference between offering a helping hand, and carrying them. Find a way of working that is empowering and you will avoid taking on any client’s karma ever again, and even “work off” some of your own.

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Ingredients – you will need

Instructions

Place individuals in a small house and gently stir and agitate to raise emotional tensions and strain for several days. Slowly add a little resentment, and misunderstanding.

 Set various members of the families tasks that they never do so will get wrong. Make one member solely responsible for keeping the peace.

Expect or try to make it the “perfect Christmas” to really increase the tension.

Keep the family unit contained until breaking point when someone says something they shouldn’t and a full blown row and walk out ensues.

Serve hot with anger, frustration and a dash of disappointment.

1. Ok – so that’s how NOT to do it this Christmas. Here are some tips on how to ensure your family Christmas is the happy time you all want it to be.
2. Lay down the ground rules for the house and Christmas period. Who’s going to be in charge of what. Let each family member choose something to be solely responsible for. Mum (or Dad) might do the cooking, Dad can do the shopping, and the kids can decorate the tree and clear up after the meal. Gran can lay the table or wrap presents. Make sure everyone has a little task to do. That way everyone can be involved and it will make it more fun.
3. Recognise that all behaviour has a positive intention. So whatever someone is doing or saying, they have an underlying intention that is positive. The annoying thing that person is doing – they’re not actually doing it to annoy you. They are just doing it, and it happens to annoy you. They might be unaware that it annoys you, or might even be trying to please you! 
4. Take ownership of your own emotions. No one can make you feel anything. All too often in our family relationships we swap the responsibility of our emotions round. We feel it’s up to us to make them feel good and up to them to make us feel good. But it’s so much more empowering and freeing if you take responsibility for your own emotions, and give them back responsibility for theirs. 
5. The 5 most powerful words in any relationship are “I’m not ok with that” If someone does something you don’t like, tell them by saying: “When you (state their behaviour). I feel (state how you feel)” or, more simply “I’m not Ok with that”. There can be no arguments it makes it really clear and simple, and removes the emotional charge out of the discussion.
6. Connect at a spiritual level. Remember even your family are spiritual beings, whom you have chosen to “play” with in this lifetime. All the dramas are only acted out as a kind of play for you to learn and grow from. Connect at a soul level, you see past their faults. Gaze right into your family’s soul and allow them to see yours.  
7. Ask for what you want and need. We all have needs. A need to feel loved, cherished, respected, listened to, or simply a need for a little help in the kitchen etc. Recognise what yours are and state them. “I have a need for…..”. Then state what you would like them to do to meet that need. Be specific about the behaviour. 
8. Send love. By sending unconditional love to your family it is even possible to see them change and soften before your eyes. Imagine an infinite source of love coming in through the top of your head and coming out of your heart to them.  And yes – even send it to your mother-in-law
9. Keep it low key and relaxed. Try not to make it “the best Christmas ever” or to expect it to be perfect. Instead make it nice, but keep it real and relaxed. Most importantly have fun. The best times happen when everyone is relaxed and not trying too hard, then serendipity can sneak in and magic really can happen.

By Dr. Lisa Turner founder of Psycademy – Leaders in Human Evolution. For free instant access to emotional resilience online course click here. http://www.psycademy.co.uk/emotional-resillience/

It usually has some kind of negative connotations, and many people think of it as linked to arrogance.

But this is only part of the story. In fact – if you think ego, or working from ego is negative – then you have ego! If you think EGO is negative then that is your ego talking.

Ego is that “stuff” or those feelings that get between you and your connection to the source

It is what gets between you and other people.

If you have any judgment about another’s behavior – that is your own ego. If you think someone is behaving badly you are making a judgment and that is ego.

Even if you are judging something as GOOD that is ego.

Ego is separation, and the ego wants you to remain separate from others and the source. If there is no separation and you become one with the universe the ego disappears. The ego is fighting for its survival and does so through emotions.

EGO is the part of you that is NOT God. Your emotions Edge God Out (EGO).

Sometimes these emotions might seem nice. You might look at another person and think “I am good. They are bad”. This sort of ego-driven comparison might cause you to feel good or superior to others. This might seem to feel good in the short term, but is ultimately unsatisfying and halts your evolution.

The goal of your spiritual evolution is to bring your Higher Self down and merge it with your conscious and unconscious minds. When the unconscious mind is full of blocks, limitations, limiting beliefs and all the other aspects of the ego the Higher Self cannot exist here.

Those blocks, limitations, limiting beliefs are simply ego.

Emotions only Ever Lie

Release your emotions – Free yourself from EGO

When you release your negative emotions, and other blocks, you create “space” for your Higher Self to merge with the rest of your mind.

Sometimes we think the releasing of these blocks will be painful and difficult. But actually the opposite is true. Holding on to our pain and blocks simply causes us more pain.

It’s not about facing our demons – it’s about releasing them. Set them free. Once they are released they will simply evaporate and vanish. When we release them, let them go – our own Higher Self can destroy the pain.

In order to release a negative emotion or block, fist notice it. When this happens it can feel like a problem. It’s only a problem when you think of it like that. In fact, it’s a perfect opportunity to release another part of your ego, to accelerate your evolution and to bring down your Higher Self.

The goal of spiritual evolution is to constantly be self aware and own everything. Not only the parts of ourselves we don’t like, we have become very good at this. But also to own and let go of those emotions we label positive.

Positive emotions are just as seductive, but when we have them and feel them – they are not US. They are something separate to us. When you let go of having or feeling joy, peace, bliss, then you BECOME joy, peace bliss.

Would you rather FEEL joy – or BE joy?

Would you rather FEEL peace – or BE peace?

Would you rather FEEL bliss – or BE bliss?

Free yourself. Free your mind

For a free emotional and spiritual audit click here.

Whenever the law of Attraction is mentioned, someone usually pops up and asks –“so did the Jews ask for the holocaust? Did they deserve it?”

Few people ever seem to have a good explanation for this so I had a bit of a think about it and attracted this one!

According to the LoA we “attract” (personally I prefer the word create) outcomes with our ENERGY and our thoughts. Not only what we are consciously thinking about, but our UNCONSCIOUS thoughts, create our outcomes. Indeed over 2000,000 of our thoughts are unconscious (about 99.9999%). Also LoA is clear that we create what we DON’T want, by fearing it. What we resist persists.

The clue there is in the title. The fact that thoughts and emotions are in the Unconscious mind, means (as the name suggests) out of conscious awareness. So NO the Jews didn’t sit around thinking the holocaust into existence.

How did it come about then?

Bad things happen when we fear them, and give the energy / thought of a bad or unwanted outcome attention. I’m not suggesting that 6 million Jews sat around thinking about mass extermination, but it COULD have happened like this….

Hypothetical explanation begins….

It starts with low level antagonism against the Jews, an individual Jew starts to dread certain interactions with other people or just low level disquiet. This sets up negative, but probably not specific thoughts and feelings of fear.

The universe complies and gives him more signs that trouble is ahead for the Jews. He begins to fear for his freedom to trade, to live where he chooses. He begins to worry that he’ll be able to support his family. He’s really worried now. Other Jews also begin to worry, and fear. The energy of fear is very unattractive, creates fear (of Jews) in others, who then start to persecute them even more, and use these feelings to justify their actions. So the Jews become more fearful, so the persecutors feel more fear from and of them. The persecutors act on their fear to repress the Jews.  And so on in this cycle until we have a holocaust. 

LoA is always clear to explain that we create with the energy of our thoughts – not necessarily the specific outcome that we are thinking of – and that you must focus on what you WANT, not on what you don’t want. It’s phrased in various philosophies as “What you resist persists” 

The mind cannot process negations directly. I’m sure you’ve heard of the “don’t think of a blue butterfly”. So if the Jews were giving a lot of unconscious emotional energy to “don’t persecute us” or something similar – then they did, unintentionally and without blame or fault, attract persecution into their lives.

Not because they deserved it, but because they feared it.

Taking responsibility of your own creation is a tough one. I was abused at the age of 13. I own it. I take responsibility for my part in the creation of that experience. It wasn’t my “fault” but it was my choosing as part of my Karma. And my experience, and how psychic, empathic and compassionate I became made me the damn good therapist I am today. I choose that too.

All in know is that if I take responsibility – I take control of my life. Personally I prefer to believe I’m the creator of my experience, not some hapless victim of circumstance.

But how you live your life is for you to choose. But why not choose a way that works and empowers?

Until next time

Lisa

So how can you rise above your problems?

It’s actually really simple. Really, really, really simple.

The secret is this: Remember that YOU are bigger than your problem, any problem, circumstance or situation. You are bigger than it.

Think about it. If you are a living representation of source energy, the universe or ”God”, if you are source energy made flesh, then you ARE bigger than any paltry difficulty. You have to be. God is bigger than any problem, circumstance or issue that this physical reality can possibly offer.

All you need to do is remember your connection to and embodiment of source energy. Feel that, know that and BE that connection to and example of living, breathing source energy. And then use that energy to overcome whatever you are facing or bypass it or navigate your way through.

You are truly magnificent. If you only knew how wonderful and amazing you really are you would never worry about anything again.

My gift as a psychic is to be able to see inside people. Through the rubbish and limitations to the true self underneath. For my part that makes me vulnerable because I’m not prepared for the rubbish when people throw it at me. I only see the truth beneath.

But I wouldn’t change it for the world. Because I love to see the beauty beneath.

If you are reading this it’s because you know deep down your true magnificence. You’re also here because you are awake. Those who are still asleep don’t notice or get what we share here.

I want to tell you that no matter how hard your life might be or how difficult things are you can overcome them.

I see you. I see the true you. I believe in you.

Laughing with Gandhi.

by Dr Lisa Turner

2nd Installment of my book

Releasing the resistance to pain will release the discomfort.  Resistance equals judgement.  

Indulge me for a moment whilst I briefly mention pain and compassion. We need pain. Pain or the discomfort that lies between where we are and what we would choose causes us to move towards what we would choose. It is that pain, or tension that pulls us forward. When we feel pain, what we feel is the tension between our current experience and what we would like to experience.

As an engineer I regularly find myself saying “there must be a better way of doing that”. It is that desire to seek something better that creates new discoveries and inventions. Thomas Newcomen wanted to pump water out of a tin mine a little more easily, so he crafted the Beam Engine in 1712

Then along came Mrs. Watt’s boy Jimmy (James Watt). He was always messing about making things and took a look at Newcomen’s engine and added a few bits to it that massively increased its efficiency. (go to Crofton, Wiltshire, UK, to see a wonderful working example of one dating from 1812).

So clever were he and his mate Matt (Mathew Boulton) that together the made rotational motion possible, thus leading to the development steam engine  used in trains. That lead, via a few dead ends, u-turns and re-engineering to the internal combustion engine, the automobile. Just listen to that a word Auto (without effort) mobile (to move).

Just because Tommy Newcomen played with water as a kid near the tin mines of Cornwall.

His work was intended to stop people, miners, from getting wet. The pain of getting wet – or drowning or being prevented from getting to the best strains of tin led to all kinds of discoveries. Yes my friends, pain is important. Pain is the tension between where you are and where you want to be.

Every time you want something, every time you desire something better or different, every time you say to yourself “Not this!” you might feel that pain. It is the discomfort of recognising that where you are, and what you are experiencing is not what you want.

When you are in a relationship that hurts, the pain you feel is the tension between what you have and what you would rather have. Don’t fight the pain; use it to direct yourself to what you want. It tells you that you have settled to low. It is there to push you take action to change something. The mistake many people make is that they use the pain as an excuse for staying where they are. They wear their problems like a medal, as a reason for NOT changing.

Which brings us to compassion. Compassion is the concern we have for another in pain. When another is in pain sometimes we feel it too, especially if it is someone we care about. Compassion for strangers happens when we resonate with their situation. They are like us, we are like them, now or in the past. Their pain is or was our pain. We know what that feels like.

But what we must never do is to deny them the opportunity to move out of it. Help them, or assist them by all means, but when they have asked and take action.

One of the single most important moments of my life was when I left, Neil, my partner of 7 years. I was 2 weeks away from my 20^th birthday. As you will read shortly, the relationship was not a healthy one. I had been trapped and isolated in it for years longer than I wanted to be. I felt the pain of where I was, but was powerless (or so I thought) to change it.

I did eventually gather the strength, from really GOD knows where, to leave and move out. I found a grotty bedsit and paid my deposit. I did not drive; my only transportation was my bicycle.  My dilemma become “how shall I get my stuff to my new place?”

To this day one of the single most important acts of unselfish kindness was exhibited by my friend Orla Murphy. She offered to borrow her sister’s car and move my stuff. She drove across London from Kensington to Haringey and ferried my boxes and clothes in her tiny Punto through the awful North London Traffic. Three trips was the sum total of my life. On the last trip I rode my bike behind her through the jam.

Eventually settling me in my new digs we had tea in a local cafe. “Are you going to be Ok?” Orla asked.

Thinking back I think she was more aware of my emotions than I was. I was on autopilot. Just get out, get my stuff out, don’t tell him where I’ve gone to and worry about the emotional stuff later.

I waved Orla off and stepped into my new home. I didn’t know what to do with myself. I had no telly to distract me, and although an avid reader I couldn’t settle to a book. I wandered about not knowing where to put myself. None of the chairs or bed felt right. It was all so alien. I sat as if in a trance and didn’t move for about 3 hours. I kept thinking, I’ll get up and do something in a minute, but with nothing TO do I didn’t or couldn’t. It was as if the signals from my brain to my body were not connected. I felt paralysed. Eventually I managed to get myself ready for bed and woke up to begin my journey of recovery.

What has this to do with compassion? We can feel compassion to another, but can only help them when they are ready to help themselves.

Before I made the decision to leave my mum would occasionally say a few derogatory things about Neil. I never became defensive, but I did become a master of pretence. Too ashamed to admit I wasn’t happy, I pretended that Neil and I had the best, most supportive and loving relationship you could imagine. I made up elaborate tales to demonstrate his generosity, kindness and love. Though in truth, I was little more than an imprisoned slave.

Until I was ready to leave, until I had made conscious decision to leave and take the action necessary I couldn’t accept any help. I rejected it preferring to craft a deceptive denial for my own benefit as much as others.

One of the most important things I learn about my experiences has been that without a doubt I would not be here doing what I’m doing and being as awake and evolved as I now am. I say this, not to be arrogant, but to express pride in my own journey to waking up.

People who have led simple, uncomplicated, “happy” lives don’t seem to be as awake as those who have had a few knocks and scrapes. Those knocks and scrapes create compassion. Those who have been in pain know what it is like and our hearts bleed for them.

Some people are cannot feel compassion. They prefer to judge. “Silly girl” “You made your bed so you can lie in it”. My theory about those who can’t feel compassion is this, and it’s pretty simple. At some point in their past they needed compassion. They had made a “mistake” and whilst experiencing the consequences of their choices no compassion was shown. They didn’t have it shown to them when they were in need. They cannot be compassionate even to themselves. Perhaps they can’t forgive themselves for making bad choices and for not making new ones when it came to light that their situation was not as they would choose. Perhaps they were in that state of pain or tension, but felt powerless to move themselves. Who knows?

When we see people who appear to be experiencing a “problem” or who has made a choice that we would not, who are we to judge? When we recognise pain in them that they cannot own fully themselves, they could be experiencing the single most important part of their evolution. It is from this place that I share my story. To this day I still feel my experiences were hugely important for me and thank my mother and father for the support they always offered to me without making my choices for me by exercising what many would call ‘parental control’.

They allowed me to get wet, then handed me a towel.

I got wet!

My mother had a difficult childhood, she suffered with depression much of her life. The feeling I had before I could even talk, was that of suffocating sadness, a quietness that was so empty it felt as though being connected to anything else was impossible.

When I was 18 months old and barely walking our family had a day at the seaside in the North of England. Whilst no one was looking I suddenly stopped playing in the sand and quietly I stood up and walked into the sea. This memory is vague but very present for me. As if in trance my little limbs moved me towards the beckoning depths which called me into the embrace of her smothering, waves. The icy surf tumbled me over and over before I was fetched out. My parents hurriedly wrapped my in any dry clothing they had to hand. By way of observation is said “I got wet”

I repeated this experience almost identically and “got wet” again when I was 2 years old. Once again the sea called and drew me into her embrace. Once again I was called back to rejoin the living on land, my journey on earth not yet complete.

I don’t believe this was a conscious attempt at suicide. Therapists have suggested it was an unconscious one. Spiritual teachers have suggested it was an attempt to return to my spiritual source, to reject this incarnation, as if I knew what a tough life I had chosen and was attempting to re-negotiate my choices.

As I grew older I recall feeling very disconnected from life, a lack of joy produced a curiosity to know what it would be like to no longer exist in the physical form. The conventional view would be to label my suffering childhood depression. I resonate more closely with the spiritual idea that I was unconsciously realising what a hard life I had selected. Like enrolling in an advanced class in mathematics and wanting to drop out because the course work looked a bit tricky.

I’m glad I took this Karma class and chose to evolve. I have infinite compassion for those who have also taken tough options, the advanced course, regardless of whether or not they are doing their homework (taking action). I am compassionate. It took me a long time to wake up, and recognise the struggle that it can be to wake up from the safety of slumber and dreams. 

Exercise 1: Where did you get wet? How did you decide that?

Write your life story. The best time to do this is first thing in the morning, even before you are fully awake.

When you have done this, make a list of the significant life events, such as when you moved house, changed job, started a new relationship, ended a relationship, recovered from an illness, or any other significant decision or change.

Even if you were not aware of making the choice consciously, pretend that you made the decision consciously and answer these questions.

What was your intention for making that choice? What did you hope to gain from that? Remember, imagine that it was a conscious choice even if it didn’t feel like it at the time.

What did you NOT choose? What was the action or choice NOT taken? What was the path NOT taken?

For each choice what were you feeling at the time you made those choices? What were your reasons for making that choice? What were your decision criteria for making that choice?

Notice the pattern to your life decision making. You will notice that there has been an underlying theme to what drove you to make those choices and changes in your past. If you do not learn to become conscious of this theme you will continue to make decisions unconsciously.  If you are happy with your life, your choices and your decisions this is fine. But if you are not then you will need to become conscious of them in order for you to change them.

For now be happy that you are conscious of how and why you have made your choices.

Until next time

Lisa

p.s if you liked this let me know.

Are you flexible enough to discipline yourself ?

Are you structured enough to allow yourself the freedom to be chaotic?

The old rules don’t work anymore. The way we do business, make friends, interact socially with each other have changed. More people live alone than ever before, yet we are more connected to more people, via the internet and social networking than ever before.

The biggest sign of change is the rapid growth of social networking and social media sites like Ecademy and Twitter, where random, synchronous connections leading to unexpected relationships are fostered. Surprising levels of intimacy blossom between people from VASTLY differing backgrounds. People who would previously have never met, let alone learnt to trust and like each other, become your biggest sources of connection.

We keep hearing that the random, open, supportive nature of social networking is the new paradigm for business. The closed, selective, controlling interactions or the aggressive Alan Sugar style of business is becoming less acceptable.

But what does this mean? Why has this change come about? What is going on? What happened to the boundaries, divisions that used to separate different people into groups?

Why have the rules gone out of the window leaving chaotic random connections?

Rejecting The Masculine And Embracing The Feminine

We have shifted from left brain to right brain thinking. The masculine to the feminine.

For hundreds of years rational, logical thought has ruled supreme. Nothing was considered valid unless scientific “proof” could be demonstrated. Clear, precise rules were applied to everything and assumed to be true. Everything was controlled. Processes were defined, measured, categorised. A place for everything and everything (everyone) kept firmly in its place. Socially this was the class system, hierarchy within companies and between firms. Judgments especially pre-judgments based on your status were commonplace.

Masculine energy is consciousness, control, structure, and often referred to as “light” as in solar light. With the sun predominant place in the galaxy (for inhabitants of planet earth anyway) masculine solar thinking has dominated. Masculine energy is the conscious mind. 

Masculine/Feminine

Closed/Open

Selective/Random

Controlling/Supportive

Judgmental/Allowing

Inspiration/Calculation

Facts/Hunches

Deductive Thinking/Inductive Thinking

Ordered/Chaotic             

Ethics/Integrity

Structured/Dynamic

Hierarchical /Social Networked

Rejecting/Permitting

Rejecting/Accepting

Solid/Flexible and Free Flowing

Differences /Likeness

Rules/Choice

Restrictive/Expansive

Light/Darkness

Heat/Cool

Stable/ Movement 

Cock Consciousness / Pussy Power

Into the black whole (hole)

Astronomy tells us that the arm of the galaxy is aligning with the centre of the galaxy where a black hole. Astrologers say this explains the shift. Of course the left brain thinking scientists will reject this as bunkum. As a scientist myself I have to agree there is no proof, but my intuition and instinct tells me that something is changing.

Feminine energy is dark, chaotic, has no rules, no formula. It is raw power. Feminine thinking is right brain, intuitive, holistic. It destroys rules and boundaries and unites. It is dark (not bad, just dark) Where the masculine sorts by differentiating and separating, the feminine integrates and unites. Feminine is heart or unconscious mind.

There has been an explosion of intuitive thinking, and being psychic as gained acceptance, even in the hearts of businessmen. Scientific evidence for the thinking heart, intuition is trusted and relied upon, no longer instantly rejected.

The balance of power is shifting, but will a balance be found. Will the masculine be completely rejected as more embrace feminine?

Masculine is control, structure, support, rules, regulations, organisation

Feminine energy is raw juicy, chaotic, dark, inspiration, creativity, flexibility, power

Power without control is destructive chaos

Control without power is impotent

The perfect balance

The perfect balance is like the internal combustion engine. The engine, cylinders, pistons, all the control systems and the engine structure is the masculine. But the fuel is feminine. No fuel no movement. No engine, a destructive explosion. But put them together and you have an engine that can drive you round the world and back.

So what of the future?

The feminine paradigm will bring a further breakdown of larger organisations, structures, rules; regulations will break down in unexpected ways. Organisation overall will be lost as flexible living rises.

Some bastions of masculine energy, particularly large bureaucracies will start to crumble. But they will likely fight back first.

Individuals and institutions trying to maintain the status quo will fight a continuingly losing battle. They may attempt to tighten their grip and increase rules, legislation and regulation, but this is likely to only be short term.

The academic institutions will struggle to resist the tide of intuitive, creative holistic thinking. They will use the old paradigm to discrete what is not provable. But what the population choose to believe will be unaffected by their proof or disproof. People will start to trust their own knowing.

There will be an increase in creativity and outlets for creativity. We already see this with the abundance of creative writing on blogs (I hope this one counts). Publishing books, creating music is easier and it will become more available to more people. The restrictive channels of the publishing houses and distributors will no longer be a barrier.

Being flexible will be the way forward

Being flexible will be the way to survive. Forget everything you thought was “true” and learn to accept what is without trying to change it.

The ideal outcome will be to find a balance before a decline into total anarchy with a new balance of the ideal masculine and feminine. Although we may overshoot into the darkness of the black whole before we come out into the new light, and that may take a few thousand years.

The ideal will be for the individual to reject external discipline, but developing self discipline. Become balanced within yourself, flexible and strong. As individuals we can only be free when we are constrained by our own boundaries.

The question is

Are you flexible enough to discipline yourself ?

Are you structured enough to allow yourself the freedom to be chaotic?

Until next time

Lisa

If you have been seeking release from your painful emotions you may have tried these methods and been left feeling more of a failure because you couldn’t make them work. I hope you will draw comfort from learning that it is not you. it is not your fault. Here is why many therapies simply don’t work or why you haven’t been able to heal yet. 

1. EXPRESS THEM. 

Many therapies focus on crying, talking about your problem or even shouting and screaming. Rather than releasing them this actually reinforces them in your neurology. Every time you think a thought, feel an emotion or recall a memory, the neurons fire in your brain along the same original path. Each time you do this you will actually be strengthening that path, making it easier for that pathway to be fired up next time. This is why small events in the present can trigger past trauma. Expressing emotions does not release them.

 
2. SUPPRESS THEM.

This is also called denial and we do this in a variety of ways. Most people will simply kid themselves or deny (hence the term) that they have any problems at all. Often emotions are suppressed or anaesthetised out of consciousness with addictions. Smoking, drinking, video games, TV, eating too much or a compulsion to eat a particular thing, even caffeine will anaesthetise your pain.
 
However, the pain and the problems are still there. The neurons are still firing, but out of your conscious awareness. Before you can release the problem you need to be honest with yourself about how you feel. It is OK to feel bad, and you can’t let go of something until you know you are holding it. How do you know if you have suppressed emotions? Here are some telltale signs:  

You overreact to small things

This is known as emotional leakage. The emotions, denied in one area of your life, literally spill out in other areas. So if you are irritable, overly sentimental, get hurt by small things, even road rage, are signs that you could be suppressing emotions in another area.
 
Feeling tired – it takes energy to carry emotions (that’s why it’s called emotional baggage) and it takes even more energy to suppress them. If you are lacking in energy, need more sleep than most people or just have no get up and go. Many of my past clients were suffering from chronic fatigue or ME, which disappeared once they released their emotions.

 
You have physical pain with no diagnosable cause.

Back pain, headaches even migraines are an example of this. You have become so used to suppressing your emotions that the spill out as physical pain. Your body is telling you something in the only way it knows how. So pay attention.
 
Many therapies don’t have an effective technique for bringing emotions to the surface and many therapists are actually afraid of provoking their clients emotions. This is the hardest part of my job as a therapist because I need to activate YOUR pain, which in turn, as an empathy, I feel too. But you cannot release emotions you are not aware of.

3. UNDERSTAND THEM

Do you know someone who knows exactly WHY they have their problems? They know the cause, the events that led to them, how it all happened. They will know and fully understand all the patterns and triggers, and often they will find every opportunity to share them with anyone who seems even remotely interested, they will launch into their “story”. The problem is they still have the problem. Knowing why you have the problem and understanding it is a bit like knowing your car doesn’t work because its fan belt has broken, but not actually replacing the fan belt.
 
None of the above is good. None works. None will make you feel better in the long term.

The way to release your emotions is to do just that, release them.

Unfortunately we have been conditioned and trained to hold on to our emotions. The media, particularly soap operas and films, have tricked us into believing that once you have a problem you will always have it and the best you can hope for is to get used to the pain.
 
I would like to share with you that this does NOT have to be the case. You CAN release your pain and trauma so that is simply no longer there. This is a process, a technique, that literally reprograms your neurology so that those emotional pathways don’t run anymore.  If you want to release your pain – then why not sign up for Emotional Clearing? Or if you want to make sense of your own pain and become a therapist to enable OTHERS to release their painful emotions then why not take our Esoteric NLP training. The world is crying out for help right now. 

Own your own emotions

 No one can make you feel anything. Every time you feel anything it is due to your unconscious programming. Bringing them in to consciousness is the first stage of the healing process. To do this, keep a journal of your emotional triggers. Every time you feel a negative emotion write down:
a. What was the emotion?
b. What was the trigger event?
c. What did you say to yourself at the time?
d. What did you think at the time?
e. How did what happened cause you to choose to feel that emotion?

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by Dr. Lisa Turner

This is a book for anyone who wants to experience the exquisite pleasure of full body orgasm. For singles wanting to know how they can have incredible orgasms alone, and for couples wanting to have incredible orgasms together. Most importantly, this is a book for those who want to use their sexual energy to manifest their intentions with power by practicing the art of transmuting sexual energy, exchanging sexual energy for power, charisma and presence.

This is also a book to help you understand yourself. Sexuality forms a key part of our identity. Sexual energy amplifies your personality, your emotions, values and beliefs. You can’t feel strongly about something without passion. This book is about becoming passionate about who you are. Coming home to the real you, understanding abuse and trauma and then releasing is an essential part of this process. No matter how big or small the abuse is, if it stops you being you, it’s a problem.

Transmuting sexual energy has long been known as the key to manifestation in life, though for thousands of years this knowledge has been held secret by only those initiated. Having myself been initiated into orders and practices and studied numerous ancient texts and approaches I now want to share some of these secrets with you. However, before we can even begin with transmutation there are vital steps to be taken in order to master this practise. Much like learning advanced mathematics, which at the highest level is creative and freeing, firstly one needs to learn to add up. For some before they can even learn to add up, they must overcome their resistance to learning. So we shall start with what most of us have an abundance of, a healthy curiosity. Forward from the vantage point of experimentation.    

Let’s get wet

I used to be an engineer. Engineers are inherently curious. Growing up my family and I lived out in rural Australia. At the age of 7 my dad brought a new pump for our septic tank. As soon as he got it in the house, I noticed it said ‘4 meter head’, I looked at it and thought, ‘this pump isn’t four meters high, what does that mean’? I saw an intake valve at the bottom & the outlet was at the top, it occurred to me that if we put this in the bath and filled the bath with water I could turn it on, and watch it action before it became condemned to the slimy depths of the septic tank. With the help of my dad, my partner in curiosity, we manoeuvred it in the bath.

There it squatted in the bath, like a miniature red and black dalek with fins.

We turned it on.

Very quickly, almost instantaneously you could say, we learned what those strange words “4 meter head” meant. Before we had a chance to do anything but vainly blink the water out of our eyes, the entire water content from the bath  was hurled up to the bathroom ceiling, and what goes up must come down. To say we got wet is an understatement. The effect was possibly akin to that of a water cannon. Furious and icy water pounded our heads and bodies as we half blindly fumbled for the “off” switch.

We stood blinking and dripping at each other. My father uttered his unique and perfect catchphrase for such occasions.

“Golly, Very, Me!” he said. “That was wet”

This was an understatement to say the least. I think what was most surprising to us was just how wet one bath full of water can make two people and one bathroom. We stared accusingly at the pump, clearly now attempting to look innocent by impersonating an inoffensive pillar box.

This book is an invitation to indulge yourself in curious experimentation. Even if you think you know what you will get. asking yourself “I wonder would happen if?”  can bring surprising results, and is the basis for many discoveries. I encourage you to let prediction go. Move to a state of curious anticipation. I wonder what will happen next? Whether you think you know, or whether you don’t have a clue.

Do it.

Try it.

That’s how we learn, as individuals and that’s how we learn and create new inventions as a species. By being willing to release our assumptions and jump in.

You can only learn to swim by being in the water. At worst it’s a bit like daily yoga, with regular practice, no matter how many times you’ve been on your mat, each session is different, yet constant practice improves your health over time. At best, you will open up for yourself a whole new world.   As you read this book and experiment with the practices, engage your curiosity.

The worst that could happen is you might get wet.

Until next time.

p.s If you liked this let me know.