7 problems faced by psychics, healers and coaches
Published January 14th, 2010 | 
Psychics, healers and coaches tend not to be in this business for the money. For them it’s more a calling, a life’s purpose to heal and help others. So why is it that despite such good intentions their lives and work are so challenging? Here are some of the challenges:
1. Not enough paying clients
By clients I mean people who are willing to pay you pay you for your time, as opposed to those who will happily call you to “find out a bit more about what you do” or those who will come for your free introductory session and go away to “think about it”, never to return.
A client is a client when they agree to pay you. They are a prospective client when they call. They are a prospective client when they see your brochure, or website, but they are not your client until you book a session and pay you for your time.
If you don’t have a steady stream of people who will pay for your time then you have a marketing problem. If you spend more time finding clients than working with clients then you have a marketing problem.
2. Trouble convincing clients to come to come to you.
There are a lot of psychics who are great at lead generation, they get lots of people calling up for a chat or more information, but who never seem to tip over into becoming a paying client. usually this is around fear, fear of change and particularly with psychics, fear of knowing a truth they would rather pretend wasn’t there. Rapport and communication skills is a way to solve this problem.
3. Clients that don’t pay
Depending on how you run your practice you can have clients that simply don’t pay their bill. They may argue the price, claim they didn’t benefit, and worst of all – blame you for not solving their problem for them. Solving this requires simple business boundaries like a contract or terms and conditions. Get them to agree to them before you start working together and make sure they stick to them.
4. Client makes the change but rejects you or your role in making the change
Sometimes a client comes to you makes fantastic changes to themselves and their lives. They are healed. But later they deny that they ever had a problem, or that you ever helped them solve their problem. They might say things like “well it was never that bad” – Even when they had cancer and now they don’t! Or they might say “it was getting better anyway I don’t know how much what you did had to do with it”
In addition it is not uncommon for a client to completely avoid you, snub you if you run into them or reject you. They do this because you remind them of their old problem. This isn’t anything to be concerned about and can be quite healthy for the client. If your ego demands recognition and accolades then it’s you who has the problem.
5. Your client stays stuck
For example you or your client may have identified a problem, a limiting belief or a behaviour that does not serve them or an emotional response that is inappropriate, and no matter what you say or do with your client they don’t change. You know what they have to do but they can’t or don’t seem to do it. Solve this by learning more change and healing techniques and working with higher levels of energy. The more energy you have access to the greater the change in your client.
Another way a client can get stuck is they keep coming back with new problems. This can be genuine, that you have unlocked deeper parts of their unconscious mind and their issues are finally being allowed to surface so they can be dealt with, but sometimes it can indicate they have become dependent on you, and this is a problem. Working in a way that empowers the client and doesn’t disempower them will solve this one.
6. Your client rejects what you offer
Psychics are in the business of getting information that will help your client solve problems, avoid mistakes and make the most of their lives. So why is it that they then reject this very information? It might be that you have presented it in the wrong way, or it can be that they need help to integrate it in a way that supports their karmic journey.
7. You take on your client’s karma
Have you ever noticed that your client has gone away healed, their problem is completely solved, but somehow you start to develop problems that are similar or exactly the same?
When this happens you have inadvertently taken on their karma. Because the laws of karma are so little understood it’s very easy to do this. Usually their problems are an opportunity for them to grow. Find ways to helping them their problems in ways that encourage them to grow and evolve. This is the difference between showing them how, and doing it for them, or the difference between offering a helping hand, and carrying them. Find a way of working that is empowering and you will avoid taking on any client’s karma ever again, and even “work off” some of your own.
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EGO: Emotions Edge God Out
Published November 22nd, 2009 | Ego is a frequently used word in spiritual teaching. But what does it actually mean?
It usually has some kind of negative connotations, and many people think of it as linked to arrogance.
But this is only part of the story. In fact – if you think ego, or working from ego is negative – then you have ego! If you think EGO is negative then that is your ego talking.
Ego is that “stuff” or those feelings that get between you and your connection to the source
It is what gets between you and other people.
If you have any judgment about another’s behavior – that is your own ego. If you think someone is behaving badly you are making a judgment and that is ego.
Even if you are judging something as GOOD that is ego.
Ego is separation, and the ego wants you to remain separate from others and the source. If there is no separation and you become one with the universe the ego disappears. The ego is fighting for its survival and does so through emotions.
EGO is the part of you that is NOT God. Your emotions Edge God Out (EGO).
Sometimes these emotions might seem nice. You might look at another person and think “I am good. They are bad”. This sort of ego-driven comparison might cause you to feel good or superior to others. This might seem to feel good in the short term, but is ultimately unsatisfying and halts your evolution.
The goal of your spiritual evolution is to bring your Higher Self down and merge it with your conscious and unconscious minds. When the unconscious mind is full of blocks, limitations, limiting beliefs and all the other aspects of the ego the Higher Self cannot exist here.
Those blocks, limitations, limiting beliefs are simply ego.
Emotions only Ever Lie
Release your emotions – Free yourself from EGO
When you release your negative emotions, and other blocks, you create “space” for your Higher Self to merge with the rest of your mind.
Sometimes we think the releasing of these blocks will be painful and difficult. But actually the opposite is true. Holding on to our pain and blocks simply causes us more pain.
It’s not about facing our demons – it’s about releasing them. Set them free. Once they are released they will simply evaporate and vanish. When we release them, let them go – our own Higher Self can destroy the pain.
In order to release a negative emotion or block, fist notice it. When this happens it can feel like a problem. It’s only a problem when you think of it like that. In fact, it’s a perfect opportunity to release another part of your ego, to accelerate your evolution and to bring down your Higher Self.
The goal of spiritual evolution is to constantly be self aware and own everything. Not only the parts of ourselves we don’t like, we have become very good at this. But also to own and let go of those emotions we label positive.
Positive emotions are just as seductive, but when we have them and feel them – they are not US. They are something separate to us. When you let go of having or feeling joy, peace, bliss, then you BECOME joy, peace bliss.
Would you rather FEEL joy – or BE joy?
Would you rather FEEL peace – or BE peace?
Would you rather FEEL bliss – or BE bliss?
Free yourself. Free your mind
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Law of Attraction: Did the Jews attract the holocaust?
Published November 2nd, 2009 | Warning – possible controversial blog post ahead!!!
Whenever the law of Attraction is mentioned, someone usually pops up and asks –“so did the Jews ask for the holocaust? Did they deserve it?”
Few people ever seem to have a good explanation for this so I had a bit of a think about it and attracted this one!
According to the LoA we “attract” (personally I prefer the word create) outcomes with our ENERGY and our thoughts. Not only what we are consciously thinking about, but our UNCONSCIOUS thoughts, create our outcomes. Indeed over 2000,000 of our thoughts are unconscious (about 99.9999%). Also LoA is clear that we create what we DON’T want, by fearing it. What we resist persists.
The clue there is in the title. The fact that thoughts and emotions are in the Unconscious mind, means (as the name suggests) out of conscious awareness. So NO the Jews didn’t sit around thinking the holocaust into existence.
How did it come about then?
Bad things happen when we fear them, and give the energy / thought of a bad or unwanted outcome attention. I’m not suggesting that 6 million Jews sat around thinking about mass extermination, but it COULD have happened like this….
Hypothetical explanation begins….
It starts with low level antagonism against the Jews, an individual Jew starts to dread certain interactions with other people or just low level disquiet. This sets up negative, but probably not specific thoughts and feelings of fear.
The universe complies and gives him more signs that trouble is ahead for the Jews. He begins to fear for his freedom to trade, to live where he chooses. He begins to worry that he’ll be able to support his family. He’s really worried now. Other Jews also begin to worry, and fear. The energy of fear is very unattractive, creates fear (of Jews) in others, who then start to persecute them even more, and use these feelings to justify their actions. So the Jews become more fearful, so the persecutors feel more fear from and of them. The persecutors act on their fear to repress the Jews. And so on in this cycle until we have a holocaust.
LoA is always clear to explain that we create with the energy of our thoughts – not necessarily the specific outcome that we are thinking of – and that you must focus on what you WANT, not on what you don’t want. It’s phrased in various philosophies as “What you resist persists”
The mind cannot process negations directly. I’m sure you’ve heard of the “don’t think of a blue butterfly”. So if the Jews were giving a lot of unconscious emotional energy to “don’t persecute us” or something similar – then they did, unintentionally and without blame or fault, attract persecution into their lives.
Not because they deserved it, but because they feared it.
Taking responsibility of your own creation is a tough one. I was abused at the age of 13. I own it. I take responsibility for my part in the creation of that experience. It wasn’t my “fault” but it was my choosing as part of my Karma. And my experience, and how psychic, empathic and compassionate I became made me the damn good therapist I am today. I choose that too.
All in know is that if I take responsibility – I take control of my life. Personally I prefer to believe I’m the creator of my experience, not some hapless victim of circumstance.
But how you live your life is for you to choose. But why not choose a way that works and empowers?
Until next time
Lisa
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