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How to handle negative people

How to handle negative people

Have you ever found yourself surrounded by people who are moaning complaining or just downright negative? Nothing ever is quite right for them. They always have something to complain about or have a whinge about.

If you’re an empath you probably find yourself picking up on the negative emotions of others even if they aren’t even saying anything or acting negatively! Either way being around negative people can drag you down.

Not only can the people we meet bring us down, then there’s the barrage of negative information and stories from social media and mainstream media.

You’ve probably seen the passive aggressive posts from “that friend”! who’s always posting how bad their life is. maybe you feel sorrow or compassion for them. But after a while even a saint might find it wears a bit thin and you might even find yourself feeling a little bit irritated by it!

Not to mention mainstream media hitting us daily with stories of doom and gloom and death and disaster and economic and financial ruin with hardly a feel-good or happy story to be found!

How can we deal with all this negativity in the world?

When faced with an onslaught of negativity it may seem that you are powerless to control the negativity of others, or the world, and this may well be true. But here are some simply tips to keep you in your state of joy.

Don’t become part of the problem!

If you find yourself constantly surrounded by negative people, make sure that you aren’t one of them!

It’s easy to find yourself joining in with the pervasive current of moaning. In some cultures it’s the norm to share what’s wrong rather than what’s right! Start to notice and be aware of those times you find yourself saying, or being tempted to say “Typical!” and then add to the negative dialogue. Don’t judge yourself (that’s not going to help!), just notice and ask yourselves if you can do or say something different. Stop. take a breath and pause. And ask yourself if you can do any of the following.

1. Is there anything you can do to change the situation.

When something isn’t right in your world and you are able to fix it then do so. What can you do to change it? No matter how big or small the action is, do it. Make a plan, and make the change.

Rather than moaning that you’re not paid enough, instead start to think about what you can do to get paid more. Can you take a course or get certified in something to increase your value in your field of work. Can you ask for a pay rise? Can you apply for another job?

If you choose to you take no action or any steps to remedy your current situation stop moaning about it! Yes this may seem harsh but all too often I hear people complain that they are not happy with their lot yet when presented with numerous options and possibilities of things they can do to change it they choose not to. Yes training. studying applying for new jobs might seem like hard work and yes it does take effort and courage. Not everyone is willing to change their life circumstances. This is fine. There’s no judgment about what you choose to do or not to, but be aware that if there are things you can do to change a situation you don’t like and you choose not to take that action, then please shut up about it!

2. Ask someone else to change what is bothering you.

It’s easy to complain about someone else’s behaviour to everyone but the person whose behaviour you have a problem with! But if you never mention to them that their behaviour is a problem for you (the only person who can actually do something about the situation) then don’t expect them to change. Instead do us all a favour and please shut up about it!

3. Heal up the trigger within yourself.

Another way of describing this would be to choose to be happy and express and experience joy regardless of how others are behaving and regardless of your circumstances.

It’s easy to think that we are not in control of our emotional responses, and that when we are surrounded by negative people, we have no option other than to be dragged down ourselves.

But actually nothing could be further from the truth. When someone else’s negative emotion causes you to feel a negative emotion, this means you are allowing others to dictate to you whether or not you get to feel happy. You are the captain of your own ship and the navigator of the internal seas of joy.

I’m not suggesting that this is easy. Well actually I am – but we’ll come to that!

I am acutely aware that for most people their internal joy is entirely dependent on their external circumstance. Yet most spiritual teachings tell as this isn’t the case. Joy comes from within!

With the right spiritual technology it is possible to release the triggers that can cause you to feel negative emotions when faced with certain external events. This doesn’t mean you might not still choose to make changes in your life, but those external events become feedback about to the changes that you might wish to make. As a result those external events or people no longer dictate to you whether or not you get to feel happy or sad.

Here at Psycademy we use the spiritual technology called Higher-Self Therapy which releases negative emotions and limiting beliefs from the past. It releases trigger events, so you are no longer a victim to circumstances. Outside events simply become feedback, rather than them dictating whether or not you feel joy or misery happiness or despair, bliss or depression. Instead they become information.

4. Inspire others to feel joy.

When you’re surrounded by people who are unhappy or negative rather than feeling down and wishing they would just stop being so negative. Instead view this as your opportunity to inspire them to feel joyful.

When you tap into your inner and infinite joy and radiate that out others will pick up on this. Your joy might be the trigger that starts to tip them into their state of joy.

Any time you are surrounded by negative people rather than wishing they would just be positive, instead ask yourself “What could I do to bring happiness, joy and light to this person or this group of people?” It might be a smile a kind word and offer of assistance. It might also be a not so gentle nudge for them to take action to change their own circumstances!

5. Change the world!

What about the circumstances that feel totally out of your control? How do we respond to world events, economic situations, politics, government affairs, laws and even natural disasters? How can we stay positive or even change them?

Some things may seem totally out of our control, and whether or not they are isn’t the issue. What is important is that you can always choose to be the light. You can always choose to be the inspiration for others. You can feel compassion to others who are suffering, yet rather than allow this to bring you down, instead use this as your trigger to choose nothing less than infinite joy. Be the light in the dark times.

Think even bigger too! If the political situation depresses you, ask yourself what you could do to change it. Could you write to your local politician? Could you join a political party or support one that most closely aligns with your values and beliefs? Could you even consider running for office and being the leader that you wish politicians would be?

If something in your particular industry bothers you, ask yourself – What could you do to change this? What could you do to lead others to be and think differently? Could you make a stand for something?

Of course I am acutely aware that most who read this will have never contemplated this. You may be saying to yourself right now “Who am I to do that!” or “I wouldn’t even know where to begin!”

You may not choose to be a leader or to make a stand. But what if you did? What if you thought about it for just a moment?

What if you asked others for help? What if you sought out those who have and are stepping up to lead and be the change they want to see in the world?

Are you reading this right now and feeling called to be the spiritual leader the world is seeking right now, and who is choosing to step into a position of greater power, be it the world of politics, commerce, business, or in your community?

If you wish the world would change, and wish that you could inspire others to change it, then you know who you are!

You are the spiritual leader that others are seeking and looking for right now!

It’s time for you to step up!

If you know and feel that this is you, even if you don’t yet feel ready or able or know where to start, then click here and find out about our spiritual leadership and spiritual practitioner program.

Why do we procrastinate? And how to avoid it.

Why do we procrastinate

Isn’t it funny how we never put off procrastination?

Do you experience anything like this? You have a long list of things to-do. But somehow you never get started, or you do a bit of one or maybe two tasks, and then find yourself on Social Media, or doodling or just generally faffing around. You get to the end of the day your To-Do list is even longer. The tasks are even more urgent.

You finish the day feeling unsatisfied and frustrated, yet tired. You go to bed vowing to do better tomorrow. Only to find the pattern repeats.

Here are some tips to avoid procrastination you get on with the most important tasks to hand.

1.    Make sure you have only 3 tasks per day.

Take a good look at your To-Do list and reduce it to the 3 tasks only. Make sure the 3 tasks you pick are the ones that will create the biggest impact in your life, that will progress you towards your major goals and outcomes

2.    Check for “should” tasks

Look through your list to see if there are any “should” tasks. You’re probably procrastinating because, on some level, those tasks are not in alignment with your life’s purpose, in which case, don’t do them. Either get someone else to do it or, if you can, just don’t do them. Decide that these are just not in alignment with your purpose.

3.    Find the resistance

Look at your list and notice if any seem to be continually pushed back to the following day or week’s to-do list. These are the tasks you are resisting doing. So the question to ask is “what’s the resistance?” is it that you don’t know how to do it? Is it that you don’t want to do it?

Where there is resistance, there is also energy, which will be released once you release the resistance. Sometimes you can power through with the force of your will. And sometimes you’ll need to find the source of the resistance and release that.

4.    Is there inner conflict

Inner conflict can have you dither between doing one thing or another, or doing something and not doing it. This can be because you have two conflicting parts of yourself who seem to want different things. If you experience this then it’s useful to reconcile those inner parts with a process (we offer this in our coaching programs [link to coaching page].

5.    Chunk big tasks down into smaller ones.

Check that your tasks are chunked at the right level. Sometimes we put a task on our to-do list which is really a whole project in itself and needs to be chunked down into a list of smaller tasks. After all, Rome wasn’t built in a day. For example, “build website” is a whole project. So chunk it down into smaller tasks like, choose domain, find web hosting,

6.    Check you can actually DO the task

One of the reasons we procrastinate is that we don’t know how to do it, we don’t have the skills, or don’t think we’re very good at it. Notice if this is the case and stop giving yourself a hard time. You’re not born knowing everything. You’re not born knowing much of anything actually. You have to learn it. So make learning the skill you need a task. E.g. “learn how to x”.

7.    Have a good motivation strategy

Everything we do, we do using an internal and unconscious strategy. Sadly we aren’t born with effective strategies, and sometimes the strategies we do learn simply don’t work very well. Fortunately it is possible to install and learn new strategies into the unconscious mind so that they run automatically. [link to coaching] once you have these installed you find your drive and motivation skyrocket and you just get what you need to get done, done.

8.    Maybe you need a rest

Ok so let’s just put this out there. Sometimes you’re not actually procrastinating, what you’re  doing is recharging your energy levels so you have the energy to complete your tasks. If you find yourself not getting on with it, just do a quick inner check, is the real reason because you need a break. if so, take a break, then come back refreshed and renewed.

9.    Set yourself up for success

Make sure at least one of your tasks is easy to do. But don’t do this first, do it second after a slightly more challenging one.

10. Celebrate your success

When you complete a task, tick it off, or strike it through and give yourself a small reward. This triggers happy chemicals in your brain, and makes you want to do more. It sets you up to find it easier to tackle future tasks, as your brain will remember the good feeling and drive you to complete the task to experience it again and again.

If you would like support to move beyond procrastination and live the life you deserve then the very best way to do this is to join our Spiritual Success Mastermind where you can work together with me and my coaches.

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Do I have gifts?

This week I’m sharing a Facebook live video where I explore what kind of Psychic you are.  Are you a high level or low level psychic and why it matters.

Be prepared for some surprising conclusions and get ready to have your worldview challenged!


I hope you enjoy the video!  Please join in the conversation by leaving a comment below.

To your spiritual success

With love


How to identify individuals and entities preventing the Evolution of the Species

How to identify individuals and entities preventing the Evolution of the SpeciesRecently you’ve probably heard me talk about the evolution of the human species. We are on the verge of a spiritual evolution and awakening. You could even call this a spiritual revolution.

At this time we are supremely technologically advanced to the extent where we could destroy ourselves and make the Earth uninhabitable. Or we could use our abilities to create a world filled with abundance, peace, joy and love for all.

We are at this tipping point.

But which way will we tip?

Will we tip towards evolution and awakening or devolution and devastation?

We are all being called to awaken. And by awaken I really mean, to remember that we are already awake.

Spiritual evolution is all about remembering that we are source, that we are an aspect of God. Every individual, every sentient being on the planet is an aspect of the divine expressing its self in the physical plane.

You might want to read that last sentence again as it’s really rather significant and important at this critical time.

Also at this time there are individuals and energies that would prefer to stay asleep!

The individuals and beings who prefer for us to stay asleep are asleep themselves.

Let me explain. When you are (or were) asleep you felt disconnected. You feel fear. You feel separate and powerless.

When you awaken you remember that you are connected to all. You are connected to source to god and you are connected to every being on the planet

But those who are asleep experience themselves as being disconnected from source. They experience themselves as being separate from other people, their brothers and sisters on the planet. They literally, live in fear. They fear everything and everyone.

They are unlikely to be aware of this consciously.

They don’t even realise that this is not the norm. they have become so conditioned to living in fear that they believe this is normal and even the “right way to be”.

This is the current state of belief of many people on the planet at this time.

Because those who feel separate live in fear they project this fear on to others. They literally fear their brothers and sisters on the planet. They literally fear other humans. They can only do this because they perceive themselves to be separate from others.

We are in the situation where we have a significant proportion of the population who feel separate,  believe in the reality of separation and are in fear and who fear other people. They also fear the power of other humans.

Those who believe they are separate fear the power of the awakened.

Those who are un-evolved fear the power of the evolved.

You might want to read that again too

When any individual awakens and remembers they are source, they instantly have access to the infinite love, energy, and power of source

Those who are un-evolved will fear the evolved and will attempt to prevent others from evolving. Rather than evolve themselves they will prefer to keep others asleep!

So the question is how can we support those who are not only asleep but who choose to stay asleep?

The other question is how can we support those who wish to awaken (including ourselves) from being seduced into staying asleep?

Recognising those who are asleep and you choose to stay asleep is critical to your own evolution and awaking. Those who are asleep and who choose to stay asleep will attempt to instil fear in you, thus causing you to return to slumber.

Here are some of the signs that someone is choosing to stay asleep and is attempting to put you back to sleep. These signs apply to both people, and entities that they might channel.

1.     The Brainwashed and heavily programmed mind

This may look like spirituality, but it’s really not. Because they are asleep they have never had the experience of spiritual connection so everything they know about spiritual connection comes from the teaching of others.

This person has a deeply indoctrinated mind, which may be from a conventional religion. However it is increasingly common that this indoctrination comes from “new age” belief systems.

These new age belief systems are extremely judgemental and rigid. They are “rule based”

These fixed belief systems consist of firm and unchanging rules. They are frequently judgemental, but they use their spiritual beliefs to judge others negatively. Ironically, often, whilst telling others not to judge!

They will talk of fear and threats. They will tell you that there are things you must be afraid of, and protect yourself from.

Of course, when you are connected to source there is nothing to fear. So the true answer is to evolve and awaken to your connection.

2.     Threats and punishment unless you do as they say

Have you ever met a spiritual guru who tells you they are channelling an angel or  an enlightened or being but the messages are threatening?

The most obvious one of these was one of my ex students (we had to remove her from the course as she became so disruptive).

She claimed to be channelling the archangel Gabriel. The message was that I should let her attend my course (for free), that I should marvel at her /Gabriel. I should let her teach my students. That if I did not bow, and marvel, worship and praise her that we would all go blind, broke, be punished, burn in hell. Thinking back a lot to the requests were actually really vague. We were all just supposed to do whatever this woman told us to because she was channelling this all powerful mighty being!

A true angel would never threaten anyone. They have no need to. A true angel and awakened guide would never need to punish anyone either. Nor would they need to be worshiped.

God knows God is infinite, so God needs no praise. It’s the insecure individual who needs their ego stroked.

It makes no sense if think about it!

If we are all one, and every individual on the planet is an aspect of the divine why on earth would the divine wish to punish itself!

If we are an aspect of God, why would God want to punish or threaten itself!

Well God wouldn’t.

So if you meet a person or an entity who threatens to punish you if you don’t  do something, worship or praise them, just say “No thanks!”  and let them get on with it.

It’s important to know that you don’t need to protect yourself against these kinds of entities, or people, just be aware of their motives, which are to keep you asleep and under their influence, and stay away from them.

3.     They have hang ups about the physical reality particularly around money

They frequently have money challenges and often believe money is evil. They reject the physical reality and they judge materialism is being all bad all the time.

Again this makes no sense.

The physical reality has been created by god. So why would God create something bad or evil?

Let’s look at the motives behind this thinking.

Doesn’t it seem likely that those who HAVE money, but believe in scarcity and lack would want to hang on to their money. And that the best way of doing so, would be to tell others that it’s virtuous to be poor and they should give all their money to them.

Then what they did is they even caused this belief to permeate down to the poor, so they don’t even need to teach this anymore. The poor are teaching this to each other, telling each other to stay poor.

It’s actually genius, if it weren’t so disempowering and destructive.

When you evolve you know that money is just energy and it’s here to support you and can be used for good. So it’s actually better for money to be in the hands of an evolved or awakened person.

4.     “They’re out to get you”

The un-evolved will often tell you that someone or something is out to get us.

“It’s bigger than you, it has more power than you, and you have no power over it, no influence but you need to be afraid, very afraid.”

Sound familiar?

It might be big Pharma, big corporations, the Government, the illuminati, the rich, the poor, another country, NASA, scientists…

Whatever it is, there’s something that’s out to get us. They’re  poisoning the atmosphere, or beaming radiation into our minds to control us, it’s poisoning our food, the water, our minds or generally being very, very naughty!

But think about it…

If you’re awake and you know that you are an aspect of the divine how could anything harm you?

When you have evolved to the awareness that you are an aspect of the divine you know that there is nothing to fear. You may have preferences to certain things and you might desire some outcomes over others but you fundamentally know and believe that you are safe because you are a child and an aspect of God.

If you buy into the fear you stay asleep. So awaken to the truth that you are source! Whootle!

Worship me!

“Worship me. For I am the mighty and powerful Oz and you must marvel at me”

Sorry I mean “Archangel Oz”

If you meet someone who is channelling a being who demands to be worshiped, and told how super-duper they are all the time, this is a sign that they aren’t quite as evolved as they say they are!

Why would God, who knows she is God need a human to boost her self-esteem by telling her how lovely she looks in that dress! It really is the same as that deeply insecure person hunting for compliments to boost their self-esteem.

God needs no compliments. God only needs you to be you!

“I’m already awake”

Have you ever met someone who keeps telling you how awake and enlightened they are? They tell you they are already evolved and awake and that there is no more evolution to be done. They’ve reached the top, the pinnacle and there’s no more awakening to do. They’re DONE!

They often use a onetime spiritual experience as proof of this. “I once spoke to an angel you know!”

Evolution is a constant process. Awakening isn’t a one-time event. It’s an ongoing process.

Evolution is like going to the gym. We go do the gym regularly because we know that if we stop the results will reverse. We to the gym you get fit and we keep going to the gym to stay fit.

It’s the same with evolution. We do our spiritual practice to evolve, and we keep doing them to keep evolving. We continue to learn and grow and evolve so that we can stay awake and so that we can awaken even more.

And a onetime spiritual experience is not the sign that you’re done, it’s the sign that we’ve started! How exciting is THAT!

Those are just a few signs of the un-evolved and who may try to prevent others from evolving and awakening. Remember there’s nothing to fear. Just remember that you are source, you are an aspect of the divine. Reconnect and remember

All God ever asks of you is to remember you and source are one.

By awakening yourself, you will awaken others.

By awakening others you will also stay awake yourself

To your spiritual success

With love


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