We teach others how to treat us

We teach others how to treat us

When you’re in a relationship that’s not working, it’s easy to blame the other person for not treating you right. Especially in relationships that turn abusive, it’s even easier to blame the abuser for their behaviour. But abusive relationships never start out like...

Why does she stay?

“Why do you stay? Why don’t you just leave?” [Note – I have referred to the abuser as a man and the victim as a woman to simplify the language, although it can just as easily happen the other way around.] One of the most common questions people ask when they hear that...

It’s finally here!

Well it’s finally here. After about 20 years of people telling me “you should write a book to tell your story” I have and it’s finished and available on Kindle now. “I Loved a Paedophile. The Seduction, Abduction and Liberation of a Life.” I’m giving away free copies...

7 Tips on How to Recover and Thrive After Abuse

1.  Let go of shame and reclaim your power Shame and guilt are powerfully destructive emotions and can even lead to long term health problems. Shame is the result of self-judgment. Each day make a conscious effort to relax shame and guilt away by simply being the...