Have you ever found yourself surrounded by people who are moaning complaining or just downright negative? Nothing ever is quite right for them. They always have something to complain about or have a whinge about.
If you’re an empath you probably find yourself picking up on the negative emotions of others even if they aren’t even saying anything or acting negatively! Either way being around negative people can drag you down.
Not only can the people we meet bring us down, then there’s the barrage of negative information and stories from social media and mainstream media.
You’ve probably seen the passive aggressive posts from “that friend”! who’s always posting how bad their life is. maybe you feel sorrow or compassion for them. But after a while even a saint might find it wears a bit thin and you might even find yourself feeling a little bit irritated by it!
Not to mention mainstream media hitting us daily with stories of doom and gloom and death and disaster and economic and financial ruin with hardly a feel-good or happy story to be found!
How can we deal with all this negativity in the world?
When faced with an onslaught of negativity it may seem that you are powerless to control the negativity of others, or the world, and this may well be true. But here are some simply tips to keep you in your state of joy.
Don’t become part of the problem!
If you find yourself constantly surrounded by negative people, make sure that you aren’t one of them!
It’s easy to find yourself joining in with the pervasive current of moaning. In some cultures it’s the norm to share what’s wrong rather than what’s right! Start to notice and be aware of those times you find yourself saying, or being tempted to say “Typical!” and then add to the negative dialogue. Don’t judge yourself (that’s not going to help!), just notice and ask yourselves if you can do or say something different. Stop. take a breath and pause. And ask yourself if you can do any of the following.
1. Is there anything you can do to change the situation.
When something isn’t right in your world and you are able to fix it then do so. What can you do to change it? No matter how big or small the action is, do it. Make a plan, and make the change.
Rather than moaning that you’re not paid enough, instead start to think about what you can do to get paid more. Can you take a course or get certified in something to increase your value in your field of work. Can you ask for a pay rise? Can you apply for another job?
If you choose to you take no action or any steps to remedy your current situation stop moaning about it! Yes this may seem harsh but all too often I hear people complain that they are not happy with their lot yet when presented with numerous options and possibilities of things they can do to change it they choose not to. Yes training. studying applying for new jobs might seem like hard work and yes it does take effort and courage. Not everyone is willing to change their life circumstances. This is fine. There’s no judgment about what you choose to do or not to, but be aware that if there are things you can do to change a situation you don’t like and you choose not to take that action, then please shut up about it!
2. Ask someone else to change what is bothering you.
It’s easy to complain about someone else’s behaviour to everyone but the person whose behaviour you have a problem with! But if you never mention to them that their behaviour is a problem for you (the only person who can actually do something about the situation) then don’t expect them to change. Instead do us all a favour and please shut up about it!
3. Heal up the trigger within yourself.
Another way of describing this would be to choose to be happy and express and experience joy regardless of how others are behaving and regardless of your circumstances.
It’s easy to think that we are not in control of our emotional responses, and that when we are surrounded by negative people, we have no option other than to be dragged down ourselves.
But actually nothing could be further from the truth. When someone else’s negative emotion causes you to feel a negative emotion, this means you are allowing others to dictate to you whether or not you get to feel happy. You are the captain of your own ship and the navigator of the internal seas of joy.
I’m not suggesting that this is easy. Well actually I am – but we’ll come to that!
I am acutely aware that for most people their internal joy is entirely dependent on their external circumstance. Yet most spiritual teachings tell as this isn’t the case. Joy comes from within!
With the right spiritual technology it is possible to release the triggers that can cause you to feel negative emotions when faced with certain external events. This doesn’t mean you might not still choose to make changes in your life, but those external events become feedback about to the changes that you might wish to make. As a result those external events or people no longer dictate to you whether or not you get to feel happy or sad.
Here at Psycademy we use the spiritual technology called Higher-Self Therapy which releases negative emotions and limiting beliefs from the past. It releases trigger events, so you are no longer a victim to circumstances. Outside events simply become feedback, rather than them dictating whether or not you feel joy or misery happiness or despair, bliss or depression. Instead they become information.
4. Inspire others to feel joy.
When you’re surrounded by people who are unhappy or negative rather than feeling down and wishing they would just stop being so negative. Instead view this as your opportunity to inspire them to feel joyful.
When you tap into your inner and infinite joy and radiate that out others will pick up on this. Your joy might be the trigger that starts to tip them into their state of joy.
Any time you are surrounded by negative people rather than wishing they would just be positive, instead ask yourself “What could I do to bring happiness, joy and light to this person or this group of people?” It might be a smile a kind word and offer of assistance. It might also be a not so gentle nudge for them to take action to change their own circumstances!
5. Change the world!
What about the circumstances that feel totally out of your control? How do we respond to world events, economic situations, politics, government affairs, laws and even natural disasters? How can we stay positive or even change them?
Some things may seem totally out of our control, and whether or not they are isn’t the issue. What is important is that you can always choose to be the light. You can always choose to be the inspiration for others. You can feel compassion to others who are suffering, yet rather than allow this to bring you down, instead use this as your trigger to choose nothing less than infinite joy. Be the light in the dark times.
Think even bigger too! If the political situation depresses you, ask yourself what you could do to change it. Could you write to your local politician? Could you join a political party or support one that most closely aligns with your values and beliefs? Could you even consider running for office and being the leader that you wish politicians would be?
If something in your particular industry bothers you, ask yourself – What could you do to change this? What could you do to lead others to be and think differently? Could you make a stand for something?
Of course I am acutely aware that most who read this will have never contemplated this. You may be saying to yourself right now “Who am I to do that!” or “I wouldn’t even know where to begin!”
You may not choose to be a leader or to make a stand. But what if you did? What if you thought about it for just a moment?
What if you asked others for help? What if you sought out those who have and are stepping up to lead and be the change they want to see in the world?
Are you reading this right now and feeling called to be the spiritual leader the world is seeking right now, and who is choosing to step into a position of greater power, be it the world of politics, commerce, business, or in your community?
If you wish the world would change, and wish that you could inspire others to change it, then you know who you are!
You are the spiritual leader that others are seeking and looking for right now!
It’s time for you to step up!
If you know and feel that this is you, even if you don’t yet feel ready or able or know where to start, then click here and find out about our spiritual leadership and spiritual practitioner program.