This article is an extract from a channelling session with Lisa’s guides, “No-One-Guide” and the subject is improving your relationship.

Who are No One Guide?

No One Guide are a non-physical, highly evolved consciousness. They have never incarnated or inhabited the physical plane. Never have they lived before. No One Guide, as their name suggests are not a single or fixed energy or being, but are the highest vibrational energy that can be held or invoked into the human body. When I work with them they enter my body. They are fluid and change in energy, vibration, and awareness, according to who is asking the question, and who is receiving the answer.

In this session, the complete question I ask is one I received: How I can improve my relationship?

Answer from No One Guide:

There are an infinite number of things you can do to achieve improving your relationship. One effective technique is to increase your sensory acuity so you become aware of your partner’s needs and moods and are able to build rapport.

A less tangible method would be not to think about it as a relationship; instead, think of how you’re relating. The word relationship makes it solid and fixed in space and time, whereas, relating can be fluid at any particular moment.

Release needs and expectations

Frictions that build in relationships are often due to expectations and the need for your partner to behave or act or respond in a certain way. If you’re treated differently than what you expect, you feel unhappiness, frustration or sadness, and sometimes anger.

If you have no expectation of your partner behaving or reacting in a certain way, then every interaction becomes fresh and new and will be coming from a place of inspiration.

Darling, I need…

When you approach your partner and say, ‘Darling, I need some peace and space…’, your expectation in that statement might cause him/her to not respect your wishes, leaving you frustrated.

If, instead, you said, ‘I would feel so much happier and more able to rest peacefully if I had some time to myself’. You can then explain that you’re tired and drained and the ‘space’ you’re asking for would recharge you and bring you to a state of being fresh and present and loving.

Your request becomes a statement of fact and preference, not an ultimatum. You release all expectations of whether or not your partner will grant your request.

Dealing with grumpy behaviour

if somebody is unhappy in a relationship, it is not uncommon for the person who loves that person to make additional efforts and pay extra attention to that person. But by doing this, you are rewarding your partner for being grumpy and the next time he or she wants attention, the negative behaviour will be repeated.

I’m not suggesting that if somebody is sad, unhappy or hurt that you not be present, but you should be aware of whether or not it’s genuine or if it’s simply a means to get your attention.

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Be open to receiving. Remove the interference of the mind and always be at choice as to how you relate and react in a relationship.

I’d love to hear your experiences with improving your relationship – so leave a comment or any questions you might have.

To your spiritual success,

Lisa

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